Suddenly, money

[Ghost of the dead horse]

I didn't have some money before, but i have now. It's 60k euros per year income at least.in minimum. Might be a bit more, 71k a year for example. Suddenly I'm contemplating a change of city, wife, family etc. Do you have ideas how I should go about my life?

 

[The Cat]

We live in interesting times...

 

[Tomb1]

60-100 k a year is like being broke. Never saw what the big deal was...

 

[Lexicon]

60-100 k a year is like being broke. Never saw what the big deal was...

Broke folks may disagree with that.

 

[Jaguar]

Change of wife?

 

[Lexicon]

Change of wife?

I think he meant change of city & *acquiring* a wife. . . Or, I hope that's what he meant...

 

[Mind Maverick]

60-100 k a year is like being broke. Never saw what the big deal was...

Maybe in Cali, lol...

 

[Lord Lavender]

Uhhhhhhhhhhhh a change of wife?

 

[Mind Maverick]

I interpreted this as being "contemplating a wife, family, and change of city, etc." not "change of wife/family" lol but it's a pretty funny "oops" if that's what they meant.

 

[Mind Maverick]

Uhhhhhhhhhhhh a change of wife?

Hey, in all fairness...maybe she's some sort of psycho and they've been trapped in a relationship with her.

 

[Abcdenfp]

Change of wife?

lol its to early in the morning for this.. btw did you see the American murder on Netflix omg

 

[Ghost of the dead horse]

Well my wife initiated something which might make us break up. She might go all the way. So then it's free for all for both of us. A midlife crisis if you will. I had my crisis before, and recovered, so I'm not breaking up. But, I'm not deciding. Why not let whatever happen that happens naturally. If I don't expend any effort in it, I'll end up with someone else because my wife is going for someone else.

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

60-100 k a year is like being broke. Never saw what the big deal was...

It takes me years to make that much collectively (adding up all the years) and I'm educated out the wazoo. Maybe it's just a social competitive put-down because someone stated that as a lot of money? Maybe it isn't to you, but it would be for the majority of humanity.

There is a weird culture out there of people with lots of money thinking they are in poverty. Recently someone complaining they couldn't afford a half a million dollar home. Welcome to reality.

 

[Mole]

Not so long ago I ran out of money, it was a little shock but I knew I could survive without money or only a little money, but to my high surprise I hunted around and found I had investments. So I cashed some of my investments and now don't have to worry about money on a day to day basis. I have found this improves my diet, and most of all it gives me time to contemplate, to think, to allow thoughts to percolate, before entering my conscious mind.

The Ancient Greeks found contemplation to be the greatest pleasure, and enough money has given me the pleasure of contemplation.

 

[EcK]

Well my wife initiated something which might make us break up. She might go all the way. So then it's free for all for both of us. A midlife crisis if you will. I had my crisis before, and recovered, so I'm not breaking up. But, I'm not deciding. Why not let whatever happen that happens naturally. If I don't expend any effort in it, I'll end up with someone else because my wife is going for someone else.

Hum what is a 'change of family' exactly?

 

[Lark]

I take it this thread is all real? Anyway, accepting that it is and its not a stunt or some sort of swindle pretext, I'm interested in how the suddenly wealthy go on to live, I used to follow the stories of the winners of the national lottery in the UK when it was very much a new thing to see how that sudden wealth effected things.

Most of the winners wound up destitute or worse off than they had been before, sometimes only within a few years. It was not all a result of being preyed upon (by fraudsters or simply people with bad investment ideas), being too altruistic, not appreciating money as a finite resource etc.

It could be simply that the tabloids (or their readers) like a "rags to riches and then riches to rags" story, to prove something about the "easy come, easy go" idea of wealth.

What way do you think that wealth changes the out look on life and do you think sudden wealth is different to other sorts? Is it true that old money hates new money and legacies will react a certain way to it, like worse than towards people who've never had any money?

 

[Siúil a Rúin]

Well my wife initiated something which might make us break up. She might go all the way. So then it's free for all for both of us. A midlife crisis if you will. I had my crisis before, and recovered, so I'm not breaking up. But, I'm not deciding. Why not let whatever happen that happens naturally. If I don't expend any effort in it, I'll end up with someone else because my wife is going for someone else.

sorry to hear this but I hope everything works out best for your situation in the end. Also congrats on your job. That's a lot of changes but you seem to be approaching things with a clear mind.

 

[Ghost of the dead horse]

Dude I'm drunk, I've only written to this threat while drunk. But, the matter of fact is this. My wife wants divorce. She's gonna have what she wants. No problem.

I know rich people can laugh at me how my life changes over some 60-70k euros a year, depending on how it's counted. But I'm sure the rest of the folks do understand how poverty is changed to non-poverty over having the income changed from 20k a year to 60k a year.

So if you know, you know. And if you don't, you don't. Be happy if you're the guy who always had your millions.

 

[ceecee]

Dude I'm drunk, I've only written to this threat while drunk. But, the matter of fact is this. My wife wants divorce. She's gonna have what she wants. No problem.

I know rich people can laugh at me how my life changes over some 60-70k euros a year, depending on how it's counted. But I'm sure the rest of the folks do understand how poverty is changed to non-poverty over having the income changed from 20k a year to 60k a year.

So if you know, you know. And if you don't, you don't. Be happy if you're the guy who always had your millions.

Yep.

 

[cascadeco]

The fact that some people *don't* comprehend how going from 20k to 50-70k/ year makes a huge change in lifestyle is incomprehensible to me. Well, ok, I take that back - it's comprehensible to me, but clearly some people are out of touch with reality for those on low incomes and the choices available as a result.

Heck, even an extra 200/month post-tax can make insane amounts of difference - and that's only.... a little over 2K more after-tax a year.

Big difference in flexibility going from 20k/year to 25k, 30k, up to 60k or so. Going from pure survival and penny pinching to having the ability to make investments or choices that enable for a better life going forward with a compounding, cumulative effect that can build upon itself is huge. Beyond that X amount where survival needs are met, savings can be accomplished, and there's extra for fun/meaningful/experiential things, any 'extra' doesn't add a significant amount of difference in terms of how life-altering it is.