Magnus
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Uh huh.Sadly some guys are highly resistant to this, even in this day and age.
Oh, I can imagine.Of course, that would be a show stopper for me.
Uh huh.Sadly some guys are highly resistant to this, even in this day and age.
Oh, I can imagine.Of course, that would be a show stopper for me.
It will never win you other dominant types, but among the submissive market it will up your standing between you and the other dominant females. There's one of two big cards to be played as early on in life as possible: discover who you're attracted to, and mold yourself into what they want, or mold yourself into what you want, and discover who is attracted to that.
Picking up the fucking check for dinner once in a while, I imagine.
And I prefer not to pay to feed cows.Perhaps these women prefer not to pay to feed trolls.
Another thing that's hard about being a woman: Being boiled down to merely a receptacle in which new humans can form and an agent who ensures their survival. No importance beyond that. After 40, after your kids could survive on their own, you're worthless.
The idea that a woman just needs to be more responsible, accountable, and dominant in order to be valued for her character is false, both generally in my personal experience and backed by research. Just try being the one who outperforms most of the others in school, and who refuses to play a dumb bimbo who needs to be rescued in order to impress the boys. You'll not get very far in general. See this or this.
No they don't. Some have been programmed to think they do, though. Also, it is very seldom overt except in conversations like this.Some people want a more egalitarian partnership, not a relationship with overt power dynamics.
that's harsh
If I can just be completely honest, it's having to deal with sexism from OTHER women. Like can we be real for a second? Very rarely have I met a sexist man. Like a GENUINELY sexist man, who goes beyond being an angry little boy on the internet, but rather a physical adult. Usually, when I deal with sexism in real life (which to me, is the only place where it matters, as any bitch can sit behind a computer screen and be rude), it's from another woman. Typically an older one, or a "Christian" young woman who has a stick up her ass.
I'm loud. I say exactly what I'm thinking. I curse and drink like a sailor, and I will kick you in the genitals if you piss me off. Can I be overbearing? Of course. But I find I actually earn the respect of most men and have many as close friends. With women, however, I only have two that are close friends, and the others are nothing but difficult to deal with. I'm constantly told by other women to not be so bossy. That I need to be more feminine. That "a lady shouldn't [insert harmless activity here]".
So yeah. Hardest thing about being a woman? Dealing with sexism... From other women.
No. Win/win scenario. You save your money, and the women you might otherwise be with move on to better prospects.And I prefer not to pay to feed cows.
Stalemate?
You have no basis for this blanket generalization. There is no reason to think that we come into this world with an inherent need for power games, or being taken advantage of. Those are the things that get programmed into us more often than not, and that programming historically has had significant gender bias.No they don't. Some have been programmed to think they do, though. Also, it is very seldom overt except in conversations like this.
I agree about the unsolicited attention. Creepy or not, it's just plain rude. The highlighted is on you, though (general "you" - anyone who behaves this way). If you can't respect your own limits, you can't expect anyone else to do so.Catcalling and random pick up lines on women who the initiator doesn't know just needs to stop. It doesn't make me uncomfortable necessarily, but I find it cringey and I will very openly roll my eyes at the person. This hasn't happened much to me, probably because I have the advantage of looking younger than my age.
I feel that, as a female, it's also very difficult for us to reject guys that we aren't interested in. For me, there's the added element that I hate causing pain and heartbreak, even if I can't help it, so I pretend to be extremely clueless and unable to read romantic intent (I've even acted like I thought a more romantic Valentine's Day card was platonic at one point)—I am trying to stop doing things like that as I think it just makes the pain worse.
You have no basis for this blanket generalization.
There is no reason to think that we come into this world with an inherent need for power games
The highlighted is on you, though (general "you" - anyone who behaves this way). If you can't respect your own limits, you can't expect anyone else to do so.
Honestly, women can be the worst critics and attackers of other women.
Mansplaining.