I'm not greatnat typing but I can tell you this. You are nothing like me in thought processes.
The E or I. I'm a strong I but that doesn't mean I dislike the company of others or have no need to socialise. In fact I work a very social job and spend most hours of my day interacting with a lot of people.
But I can easily spend a long time on my own with minimal outside human interaction. By a long time I mean weeks or months at a stretch. I don't believe having a desire for social interaction in adn of itself to be an indicator of extroversion. We are human, generally we want to chat with other humans. The defining point for me is whether or not you spend more time in your own head or exploring other people's heads. I most definately have a strong prediliction for my own head. Other people aren't that interesting to me to really dig down and get to know them very well. Most of the time I am entertained by my own mimd.
N or S. I am almost soley fixated on my future. I find it hard to be in the moment and mostly that's frustraitng for me and the past is something I'd rather just forget, although damn it my mind likes to dredge up a lot of shit from there too. But absolutely I am future orientated. I have a very low sensing score. The test though is how clumsy are you? My low sensing ability makes me a walking mishap. Nothing dangerous but a general lack of awareness of the environment around me means I am forever dropping stuff, forgetting things and stubbing my toe, cutting my fingers. It all boils down to the fact I am never fully present, or ungrounded if you like. If I gave you something from Ikea to assemble, would you read the instructions or wing it?
N or T. I'd say you are F. Why? your focus on something like conflict, it's an F thing that. Analysis alone does not a T make. All types analyse. But your focusing on an emotional thing (conflict) which leans me in the direction of F for you. When I think about something llike the workplace I'm all about getting the tasks done with hardly a thought for the human factors involved.
P or J. You sound like a P to me. I'm a srrong J and closure is a major driving force for me. I'll make any decision, even the wrong one, in preference to leaving something open-ended. You've also admitted to being commitment avoidant, thats a P thing.
Don't know if I've really been of help except to say you are very unlike this particular INTJ. Emjoy the discovery.