I never felt like I meshed with this test, nothing really feels great to me or sticks out.
It all seems very Sensor-ish too, everything is very quantifiable -- tangible expression. That makes sense, though, considering the aim of the test is for couples to give each other tangible quantifiable signs of love in order to improve their relationship.
You know what makes me feel loved?
- Being listened to
- Given autonomy rather than being made to feel/think how the other person feels/thinks
- Talking honestly and deeply / intimately, so I sense I know the other person and they know me.
- Knowing I can be myself -- even if that means sometimes showing my "ugly" side -- and that the other person still delights in me.
Mostly all "process" things -- HOW do we relate -- rather than through WHAT do we relate. Again, Sensor-ish for the latter.
Percent Language Score
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33% Physical Touch 10
27% Words of Affirmation 8
20% Quality Time 6
17% Acts of Service 5
3% Receiving Gifts 1
I don't know...I just feel like someone who doesn't really love you can use words of affirmation and physical touch to create the illusion they love you, but if they really love you, it comes in more through service and quality time. Love is action. Does anybody understand this?
It's hard to fake sincerity in true words of affirmation, though, since it takes knowing how to communicate to your partner.
People who don't love you can also fake service and quality time.
Quality Time 12
Physical Touch 9
Acts of Service 4
Words of Affirmation 4
Receiving Gifts 1
Also, I struggle with those that have receiving gifts as a primary language of love. I'm just not geared to think that way all the time.