I think the bolded may be key. With most people, Fe is rather superficial. It is nice to be nice and to get along and not cause trouble. Fi in the same situation isn't so much superficial as avoidant. In particular, Fi-doms tend to avoid, while Fi-aux tends to bring up Te to deal with unpleasant situations.
While those may be broad tendencies, I think the enneagram makes nice distinctions between the different flavors of each Fe and Fi dom and aux. For example, "be nice, go along to get along" seems more 9 flavored than type flavored for me. Then, add type back in, and you see a unique expression of each play out.
At times, the "niceness shield" can backfire, and be misread as NFPs as insincere.
Sometimes that "niceness" shield is sincere, and I respect when it is, but other times it is not. I get a sense of this on a sliding scale. It's not an "on or off" thing.
I do try to give others the benefit of the doubt though, of course, even when I am suspect.
I'm also NOT ruling out the possibility that Fe judgments will suit a person preferring Fi, but I do note that if one naturally orients outward for the signs and signals and actual location of feeling, then you're in a better position to feel positive reward in accommodating the forms and paths.
Yes, I like this. Personally, I don't especially feel rewarded accommodating the Fe rules, yet I often do (accommodate them) ... I have to look for other areas to find some gratification for my behaviour and for utilizing social grease. Performing a rote ritual of "going along to get along" can feel perfunctory and fake to me, so I generally look to more universal values to feel satisfied in their usage, that I am doing the "right" thing for that situation.
And I'm thinking what we seem to be trolling calling fakeness is most apparent in those times when Fe people are overriding the feelings of the moment, the better to build these larger paths and forms.
Yes, I agree there too - Fe people override their true feelings
and they gain satisfaction from this somehow - Fi people override them too, but I imagine seldom feel satisfied in doing so. It feels more like a betrayal of them, a submerging of them, not permitting their existence. To sense someone feeling one way and acting another is not disingenuous in and of itself though ... there are signs of when this is inappropriate to Fi and I don't have time right now to flesh that thought out.
There are no principles of Fi. As a judgment system it varies from person to person. What is universal however would be its nature as an introverted judgement system. Just like... Ti.
Us Fi doms like to think there is a universal moral, value-based construct, though. Fi doms, please disagree if I am overstepping my purview here.
Thanks for not coming out and supporting me TP's... thanks a lot. Let these Fi fools roll all over me.... *dejected*
I really do believe that TP/FJ is the way of the future and that TJ/FP represents a useless vestige of our past....
How are you today? So, you're not here to win friends and influence people, then?
I was going to respond to your posts ... but I have changed my mind, because your actions here seem bereft of grace and humility.
I need to see evidence that you're not actually a troll, so can you express yourself here without vilifying 50% of the cognitive functions present?