Sorry if the original post was confusing or didn't thoroughly explain what was meant.
Yeah, this thread is about me, personally. I'm trying to understand something. All of your answers make sense and as I did say, I know everyone is different and that we all have our weaknesses and strengths. I don't expect someone who doesn't like confrontation to be like me, but I want to understand them. And, Buck, I want you to know that this little problem I'm having really isn't little at all. It's about my life, a huge part of my life, though I won't go into it here. And, when I say "confront" someone, I do mean I want to bring the topic into the light of day so that I'm not always in the position of wondering. It hurts, this thing I'm feeling, and it could be resolved if someone could somehow realize that keeping secrets is really harmful sometimes, even if it's a lie of omission. And lastly, I would allow for processing time, I need that myself, I'm not out to try to make someone feel bad for having an incompatible inclination, people are who they are and I don't care to change them if they are enjoying what they do even if I wouldn't be inclined to do that. The problem however, is that someone else's lifestyle infringed upon my boundaries and that IS where I have a problem with "just do as you like". Please don't hurt someone else doing what you want to do in life. I am not trying to "actively/aggressively pursue interaction and try to bully/coerce/shame others into accommodating my own inclination." I really don't care what you do, just don't involve me, especially when you (not you personally) know that it would be something I wouldn't want to be involved in. I'm perfectly willing to listen to other points of view, even if I don't agree with them, and try to understand them. I find it other people's POV's fascinating and am very willing to try to see how they might think the way they do. But that can't be done if someone doesn't want to engage in any sort of discussion, which leaves the person who has been hurt in a pretty sad situation.
Is there ever a time when any of you conflict avoiders would consider that the feelings of the person who is asking to talk about something might be important enough for you to just try to put aside your avoidance for a little while?