This reminds me of a conversation I had with my sister last night. I seem to suck royally at making friends for the sake of making friends. If I'm talking to someone that doesn't have an immediate common interest with me that I'm genuinely interested in hearing their opinion about, I don't give a damn about them. This keeps me from making a lot of friends because I restrict myself to people that I just may happen to come across while doing my own thing.
I've been trying to date lately, and I often come across the problem of thinking that I need to date for the sake of dating to gain experience, but when I begin to lack interest in the person, my approach to them becomes less emotional and more strategic. This throws me off completely because it makes me consider breaking things off out of a lack of genuine concern for the other person. My philosophy is, the strategy can go in all sorts of directions toward impersonal things, such as school, work, hobbies, etc. However, if I'm approaching another person from a strategic point of view, then I'm wasting my time because any second something can happen that might require an emotional reaction that will not be there.
In the end, it just came to me realizing that during all these attempts in socializing, I have to remember one thing: as much as I want to improve myself in the social realm, my personal desires should always come first and I always have a choice. There are no set rules on what I need to be doing in my life except what is required to sustain life. Everything else is my decision and it is completely unnecessary for me to put myself at the mercy of other people if it isn't working toward a personal goal.
To me, that reasoning is a lot of Te and Fi. I always wonder how other people live without really knowing their intricate thought processes. I just don't understand how you can live your life without knowing how you think inside and out, because you're really stuck with yourself all the time. I think I'll never understand the truly extraverted people. My first reaction to everything is to look within myself. If I have to look externally before looking internally, I feel as if I'm betraying myself.