I have only known two enfjs in real life. They both were nice, but very odd for me.
One I knew a few years back just started working with me again. A few years back when I told her that I had been a single mom and worked my way though undergrad and grad school but had receieved scholarships, she said she found single moms who relied on financial aid to be irresponsible and they had stolen her funding.
I had to leave the room and didnt interact w her after that. I was at a loss for words.
So now she works with me again and with my TypeC imparted Fe knowledge I am hoping to have a better second round. Especially since we just got paired up to write a strategic company business plan for an entire division.
Today she stopped by and just kept talking about what the group was doing. I then explained my goals and objectives, and scope of responsibilities and plan for how we could write the report and types of external data and intuition I felt she could offer that would be of value.. Then she just kept talking and talking...
So in my head I stepped through the "Fe steps"
1. Nod and listen politely. Actually listen and pay attention.
2. Practice sideways Fe eyes.
3. Try and be soft, open and receptive. focus on her or the group's needs, not mine or specific objectives..
WHAM....Ah she wants me to do something!!! That's why she keeps talking about the group and what they are doing.
"So what can I do to help out?" I then got tasked.
Do I get a gold star????