1. Why I would I do that ? If they have a real counter argument they will use it. Otherwise my claims are factually stronger than theirs. (despite that this is politically and socially incorrect) And if they indeed have such a argument I want to know it even if this means that they will use it as a defense from me.
2. If you are so impressed with form over the content I am not even concerned about getting my massage across. (or I can simply throw you out of my company because this is in my opinion dangerous behaviour ..... and that is it - case closed)
The entire discussion at hand is, essentially, "I deem 'using Te' as important, but I also don't want to chafe other people. How do I reconcile the two?"
If you care about having a discussion with certain people, you will want to try to not actively piss them off, because that's how those people function--so, take them or leave them.
If you don't communicate with the other person, then you're missing out on their perception of reality and will continue to believe that you're 'right,' even in cases where you are not. It could be that the other person is right, but that you've irritated them to the point that they'll no longer talk to you--if that's the case, it's you who will be missing out on the truth.
That is, you're assuming that the other party will use a counterargument if they have it
and that, if they don't use it, then your argument is the correct one. If you assume that you're right just because the other person gives up, then, sometimes, you'll be assuming that you're right in cases where you're actually not right. They could very well be right, but could be giving up due to a perceived lack of respect or due to a perception that you're not listening to them. They'd believe that you're closed-minded and that there's no sense in attempting to convince a closed-minded person.
Stated in a more direct way, the assumption that you're necessarily
right if the other person stops talking to you is sometimes (if not often) a faulty one.
3. If there is no physical violence I dont see a real problem. Especially since I want to surround myself with people I can talk freely and be what I am. So be open for the idea that being nice can also "burn a bridge".
Do you have any idea how frustrating is to be nice nice all the time ? However some people simply dont get that some other people consider this to be a waste of time (in general). Just imagine what things I could have done if I wasn't opening you slowly for conversation ...... just so that I can get my massage across.
Likewise, if the other person wants to hold a discussion with you,
they'd be better served by trying to be blunt with you than by trying to be nice and skirting around their points--because that's what you value. But you can't force others to do so; it's easier to force yourself to adapt to them if you want to have a discussion.
(this post is just an example of why Te often has to or wants to hurt someone)
Even if it may 'often' have to, this thread is about the cases where it
doesn't have to. It's also about expanding those cases.