mrgorbachev
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- Jun 13, 2009
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Even though I definitely agree with the comments way back that were just "like people." But I will give the OP the benefit of the doubt and assume what was meant was "How do you maximize a conversation with an SJ so you both get something meaningful out of it?"
Whenever I talk to someone who has a preference for SJ I try to "come down from the stratosphere" a bit, and just talk about how things are. Some SJ's are very interesting-- we can have conversations and both bring different perspective to the table, but I will admit that it is frustrating for me (and must be frustrating for them) when my own natural inclination towards abstraction and flights of fancy occur.
My mother is an ISFJ and she is very good about "the real world" but she doesn't like when I start talking about books I'm reading or that kind of thing because it's not something she finds engaging. It's not like she's dumb-- she's absolutely amazing at running things, has her feet firmly on the ground, and is generally what keeps the household moving along.
Just my personal view, obviously.
Whenever I talk to someone who has a preference for SJ I try to "come down from the stratosphere" a bit, and just talk about how things are. Some SJ's are very interesting-- we can have conversations and both bring different perspective to the table, but I will admit that it is frustrating for me (and must be frustrating for them) when my own natural inclination towards abstraction and flights of fancy occur.
My mother is an ISFJ and she is very good about "the real world" but she doesn't like when I start talking about books I'm reading or that kind of thing because it's not something she finds engaging. It's not like she's dumb-- she's absolutely amazing at running things, has her feet firmly on the ground, and is generally what keeps the household moving along.
Just my personal view, obviously.