ubee0173
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Do women 'test' men more than vice versa? Is it usual for women to set bars like this? In my experience, being in a relationship involves a fair amount of strength-testing.
This made me think about my criteria for a girlfriend. The main thing is that she enjoys doing things with me (both in and out of the bedroom) and spending time with me and is warm-hearted and won't try to boss me around and won't take advantage of my easy-going nature and won't seduce the hunky tradesmen who fix up the house.
if you have to wait and see about what sort of heart they have then its not casual. you are evaluating their potential as an actual partner and not a toy to be used as such. i dont know, i guess i take a more typically masculine approach to this, but there are Great Big Differences in people i will date and people i will do dirty terrible things to. the only criteria the latter have (had, i guess) to meet are : stand out at least a tiny bit ,no complete idiots, not wanting to take me to some far away torture chamber or something, nice hair for the pulling, and a metric fuck-ton of just, i dunno, just sex appeal or charisma or something. the people i date dont have to have any of those (except the not-murdering-me one) since i am invested in the whole person and not just the physical rewards. they must be actually intelligent, maybe a smidge of charisma and have their shit together at least enough that i dont have to tell them what to do. it seems kinda weird that my fling list is longer than my ltr list- but i guess everyone wants to be with a good-hearted person, and that can mask a lot of undisireable superficial traits. whew! wtf was that so long winded?