after you love her that's easy, but how likely are you to fall for her in the first place if you don't find her physically attractive? be honest.
When I met my girl, I am together with now for 7 years, she had a couple of pounds more. Over the last year she has lost a lot and if you compare her with a 7 year older picture, you'ld see a clear difference to today. So the ops topic basically went vice versa for me.
You know I dont want to play morale apostle or so, but its exactly male thinking like that that drives woman into an obsession with superficial beauty and ruins them characterally for all of us. In my history of relationships I had both very skinny and not so very skinny girls and if you ask me who I liked more; it were genrally the not so skinny girls. Cause they had other talents besides looking cute as well.
But being in a relationship with a very obese girl would be a problem for me as well. The unhealthy way she is living her life would hurt me cause I would basically see her throwing away her health and for very obese people the problems already start around age 30 and get worse already around age 50.
So I dont want to give out a charter for woman to get fat. But I too have the opinion that looks dont matter. Its the eyes, the gestures, the gaze, the movement and the whole picture composed of the details that make a woman attractive for me. If ontop of that she is intelligent, thats jackpot.
i am maybe a bit more of a romanticist with that, but I am sure that my attitude, tho it sounds appealing, isnt the one necessarily liked by all girls and that there are still a lot of woman who give their whole life only meaning thru their looks.
i am a big fan of the Vanity effect in that regards, which stands for the transience of exterior beauty but for the eternity of inner beauty.