Wyst
lurking....
- Joined
- Jul 6, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
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I’m inclined to think it’s more a matter of being secure/insecure. To me, the term ‘maturity’ denotes growth that doesn’t easily retrograde.
Hmm, not sure I agree. Like we've been saying there are many types of INFJs - maybe some are on different scales (a maturity scale/a security scale).
You've also got immature and mature INFJs - those who haven't grown up a lot in their MBTI and those who have - this also adds a new level of diversity within the INFJ type.
I think most of the disparity between INFJs can be summed up by a combination of 1) is the INFJ comfortable in their own skin 2) is the INFJ continually holding people at arm's length.
I'd say that some of the people I'm most guarded with are actually in situations where I am comfortable. It is precisely because I'm comfortable that I let people in close - yet when they're close is when they can hurt me the most.
If I were insecure, I wouldn't have let them in to begin with. Once I've let them in, suddenly shutting them out because of my fears (which everyone has), despite wanting to be close to them, is silly, selfish, and self-centered - immature.