Udog
Seriously Delirious
- Joined
- Aug 2, 2008
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- INfp
- Enneagram
- 9w1
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
That's been the opposite of what I've read. Type 9s don't know their own desires and needs. They have to dig to discover that. It's not a choice to chose harmony over self, it simply is.
Do you remember where you read that? The only thing I really found in the link you provided earlier (9 - Enneagram Type Nine: The Peacemaker) was this:
"We have sometimes called the Nine the crown of the Enneagram because it is at the top of the symbol and because it seems to include the whole of it. Nines can have the strength of Eights, the sense of fun and adventure of Sevens, the dutifulness of Sixes, the intellectualism of Fives, the creativity of Fours, the attractiveness of Threes, the generosity of Twos, and the idealism of Ones. However, what they generally do not have is a sense of really inhabiting themselves—a strong sense of their own identity. "
How can an INFP not have a sense of identity? The next paragraph answers that question for us:
"Ironically, therefore, the only type the Nine is not like is the Nine itself. Being a separate self, an individual who must assert herself against others, is terrifying to Nines. They would rather melt into someone else or quietly follow their idyllic daydreams."
My strong empathy into the state of others makes it very easy for me to get distracted. Sort of like watching TV when you know the lawn needs to be mowed.
I know when I am suppressing, when I don't like something.
Yup, me too. What I often don't know is how deep the suppressed emotion goes. That's where the numbing comes in. I know I'm angry, perhaps very angry, but I look away because if I face that anger head on, I stand a chance of losing my temper and doing something I regret.