Sometimes, i get pretty indecisive about things... does anyone know how to get from indecisive to decisive? and just not regret things?
My boss once called me the "poster child for ambivalence."
Later, he felt embarrassed by saying it.
I still quote it, though, because it makes me laugh: He was SOOOOO right.
The only thing that cured me was time and the demands of life.
When I was young, I had the space and time and energy to be indecisive. I also took everything far too seriously, as if I had to make the right decision up front (whether to avoid looking foolish, or else simply because I could not trust my own strength to work through calamity).
But after awhile, once you get a sense of (1) some issues just are NOT worth so much energy investment and (2) how capable you are to deal with mistakes you might make, it gets easier. You just make a decision so that you can get the situation wrapped up, and then you change your decision as you go if you realized you boo-boo'ed.
As far as personal preference? That's been the hardest. For a long time I had no idea what I *wanted* and thus could not just respond from that. After awhile, you either learn to tap into it and/or learn not to take "preference" questions so seriously, so you can just decide to want something and, again, change as you go if necessary.
Many of your solutions will depend on the situation and why you are being indecisive (i.e., what you're "afraid of").
I talked to someone else about the decisions they were making in life (they were torn too), and they quoted this part of my note. I remind myself of this now too, when I forget:
Remember that feeling.
Remember what happened when you went with things.
Never forget it.
No regrets.
Making decisions often feels good.
Regrets only ruin the moment, and don't resolve anything.
Regrets are just punishments we inflict on ourselves for not finding the "perfect solution."
Accept ambiguity and complexity, accept that all decisions have pro's and con's, and embrace your life.