This is stuff i noticed that IxFx are better at picking up then ExFx. IxFP has that want to understand while IxFJ has the want to have that good solid relationship. With ExFx it comes across as "i dont care", but knowing the type its a multitude of reasons that cause their reaction. None of which can actually be fixed because their stubborn side is to hold onto the perception they created over reasoning. Reasoning is something that while not done purposefully is usually used to support perception with ENFP. Its part of what makes them teflon. Unhealthy is MUCH more teflon then healthy. Basically teflon means nothing sticks.In my case, five years and this has happened twice. What I mean and I think what Poki said too, is that if you're seeing that level emotion/anger, it's like our last resort. We simply do not know how else to communicate but to say what we mean and we will try numerous ways to doing that ( if we care.) and the anger comes from just how overt and direct we are being and there's recognition of that from the other person. In my case, enfp. It's like, "copy. I hear you." then keep doing same shit. So, I think (eventually and over time) enfp has to be paying lip service or just purposely being some kind of a**hole. Now, that's not necessarily a judgement of the person, more disappointing that what they like about you to begin with (blunt sincerity) isn't recognized when it's something difficult for them to look at (conflict avoidant). With every temper shown the situation now *has to change* a decision has to be made and if nothing changes from those decisions, the relationship will deteriorate or ultimately end. So Poki had a point about solution based thinking because that's what it is. Second time this happened with my enfp I made a decision that forced him to make some decisions. You don't have an ISTP explosive temper and go back to the way things were. That's why [MENTION=12103]Poki[/MENTION] said something like atom bomb. It literally changes the landscape of a relationship, friendship whatever.
I have had a convo VERY similiar to what [MENTION=5223]MDP2525[/MENTION] has said with current ENFP. Its a slow learning process where the ENFP has to mentally slow down and become more Fi day in and day out where as typical response is a fall back to a more shallow dab in it a little and then jump to extroverted side.