I broke up with my ISFJ two years ago. We had been together five years at that point. I find it so strange that there does not seem to be more pairings of INFP and ISFJ because we filled each other out very well and it was a "love at first six months"-thing (I don't think either personality type enters a relationship quickly or lightly).
So my questions:
INFP's:
1) Have any other INFP's become aware of their hyper-idealism in relationships?
2) Have you come to regret some of the decisions you made because of it?
3) How have you dealt with your idealism in relationships?
ISFJ's:
1) Is it possible to re-establish a relationship with someone who abandoned you?
2) How should the person approach you?
3) Would you be able to look past the abandonment?
I will answer my questions for the sake of future searches:
1) I very recently started realising that I might be too idealistic.I build incredible scenarios in my head that scare or attract me. This is good for life goals and passions, not so good when it involves beautifully imperfect human beings.
2) After two years, yes, I regret it. I don't know if I am idolising my ex and our past realtionship. But then, every lasting relationship equates to hard work.
3) I have started researching my ass off. I've started accepting myself and learning my strengths and weaknesses and how to deal with them. I think I have grown as a result. I've even started bombarding my ex with questions and everything seems to align. But apparently we have this ability to feed emotions in people? So I still wonder if everything he says is true. Because they are just perfect, aren't they, these ISFJ's. The cynic in me has a hard time accepting this, as much as I really do believe they are some of the most wonderful people on earth.
Feedback would be fantastic!
Thanks
Side note: ISFJ's, I've read you guys struggle with getting over exes. Well, you are just as hard to get over. You wonderful, sweet things.
So my questions:
INFP's:
1) Have any other INFP's become aware of their hyper-idealism in relationships?
2) Have you come to regret some of the decisions you made because of it?
3) How have you dealt with your idealism in relationships?
ISFJ's:
1) Is it possible to re-establish a relationship with someone who abandoned you?
2) How should the person approach you?
3) Would you be able to look past the abandonment?
I will answer my questions for the sake of future searches:
1) I very recently started realising that I might be too idealistic.I build incredible scenarios in my head that scare or attract me. This is good for life goals and passions, not so good when it involves beautifully imperfect human beings.
2) After two years, yes, I regret it. I don't know if I am idolising my ex and our past realtionship. But then, every lasting relationship equates to hard work.
3) I have started researching my ass off. I've started accepting myself and learning my strengths and weaknesses and how to deal with them. I think I have grown as a result. I've even started bombarding my ex with questions and everything seems to align. But apparently we have this ability to feed emotions in people? So I still wonder if everything he says is true. Because they are just perfect, aren't they, these ISFJ's. The cynic in me has a hard time accepting this, as much as I really do believe they are some of the most wonderful people on earth.
Feedback would be fantastic!
Thanks
Side note: ISFJ's, I've read you guys struggle with getting over exes. Well, you are just as hard to get over. You wonderful, sweet things.