EJCC
The Devil of TypoC
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- Aug 29, 2008
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- sp/so
Finally went through the thread.Oh man. I have pretty much the same problems as OP. I tend to have friend groups full of sensitive people, and I'm so bad at catering to needs that I don't realize even exist, that I have a history of walking on eggshells around my friends. (Which is as much of a nightmare for an ESTJ as you'd think.) Only recently have I joined a friend group full of people that I don't need to do that around.
Posting in order to subscribe, and to remind myself to read the entire thing at some point.
It's tricky. I'm not HSP at all (except for a bit of noise sensitivity), but I have some HSP friends. One friend is especially HSP to the point that she pretty much has to limit herself to PG and PG-13 movies even at age 28 -- no tolerance whatsoever to thrills and scares. She is also very sensitive to people's criticism, and quick to fall into negative self-talk. But at the same time she acknowledges that other people shouldn't have to cater to her sensitivity (with the exception of trigger warnings, which I think is fair, but I digress).
On the one hand, HSP folks who are self-aware don't try to force their needs onto others. But on the other hand, if you want to get your point across to them, and you know they either won't listen to you or will be too overwhelmed by their own inner monologue to hear you, then you HAVE to cater to their needs.
So, while I agree with most folks in here, that the sensitive folks in the OP need to calm down and get over it, I'm not sure what to do in similar situations where the sensitive folks ARE self-aware and ARE doing everything they can.