Your preferred type is 1111
Learn from 2112 and 2222.
Yes, that's the pattern.
ISFJ = 1st base for learning of ESFP and then ENTP.
Any ISFJs to test this out?
Well, I think one thing to be careful of as this is explored is that we don't fulfill our own created expectations. IOW, to test this, we not only need to see if this makes sense for ISFJ, but that other potential model types DON'T make as much sense or aren't as efficient.
That being said, my wife has benefited a great deal from bonding with our ESFP son. (Ironically, she finds him the easiest one of our three for her to "understand" and relate to.)
She is SiFe and he is SeFi. So in a way I think he fascinates her and lives vicariously through him, in a sense. And while she is trying to give him some structure (which SiFe is great for), she's learning to ease up, allow herself to live life, be in the flow, find her own inner values.
Some of the best times I have had with my wife was when she stopped Fe'ing and just dropped into Se. (The times we went jet-skiing, for example; she is SO straight-laced, but out there on the lake, she switched into "in the moment" mode and was a real maniac.)
Likewise, her Ne used to be very terrible, because she tends to see just what she wants to see... or fears she might see... rather than what is actually there. Learning to disengage from her Si (which says, "Here is what happened in the past, so it will likely continue to happen in the future") and choosing Ne ("Here is what could happen, based on what I see around me right now") is good for her.
nightning said:
Question about function development... what to work on first? They say your inferior function will come to you in yours 40s etc... will it be overly taxing the actively work on it earlier?
Yes, it is taxing... and potentially destructive.
Why? Because if you are forced to develop it before your primary and secondary are developed, you basically get confused and learn to distrust your #1 & #2 functions.
It's not a matter of not being able to develop Fe, then, for INTPs, at a younger age. It's that they shouldn't be developing it more than their Ti and Ne; they should get their main functions established first, THEN work on the others.
I think this has been my experience. It throws everything out of whack... nor do you learn to develop Fe in the best possible way, it's likely to be distorted in some way. That's what I see in myself: Saying and doing the "right things" to preserve my social role/place, rather than following TiNe. Ne was more acceptable (caused less friction) than expressing Ti, which could be ruthless and very direct -- usually I just harbored Ti inside and didn't share it much with anyone.
Should we even follow that crazy development pattern... say for INTP, Ti Ne Te Ni Se Si Fe Fi? Or is it better to apply everything together... that what do they call it? The zig-zag fashion?
I don't know. I ended up developing my introverted functions first, and excluding my Te and Se pretty drastically, due to my bad childhood situation. I think this gave me some sensitivity and richness, but it also confused me because I ended up being of "two minds" (such as my Ti constantly being confused by Fi, and so forth).
Realistically, I can see what the zigzag pattern is followed -- because Te is similar to Ti in how it evaluates things, it just does it externally. So Te is simply a servant of Ti -- something that helps Ti implement in the outer world -- but doesn't really get in its way as long as it realizes its position. Same thing with Ni -- it sort of acts as a way to balance and check conclusions made by the TiNe combo. If you developed Si first, its tendency is to "shoot down" ideas made by TiNe rather than guide them. And Fi muddies up Ti, weakening conclusions as well -- a big inner fight over "what makes sense" vs "what I value."
This is speculation on my part and needs to be explored further, though. Just never thought about it before to this depth.