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    Senior Member Lily flower's Avatar
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    Default Is introversion really a good trait?

    I am an introvert and I recently read a book on the good traits of introverts - you know, they have deeper relationships, etc.

    But I have always felt like I was just introverted because I am terrified of being rejected by people. It's easier to be alone than to risk being rejected all the time. So I have seen it as an undesirable trait and I have worked hard on gaining social skills to overcome that undesirability.

    Is introversion truly a gift/positive attribute? Should I embrace it, or keep working on being more social?

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    ur an INFJ the rarest type.

    Be happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    Is introversion truly a gift/positive attribute?
    Sort of. The pros and cons are pretty balanced, imo.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    Should I embrace it, or keep working on being more social?
    Both! Being introverted doesn't mean you have to be asocial. Just stick to smaller gatherings and quieter parties. Or get drunk, that works too.
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    like any other trait, it has positive and negative sides to it.
    "Where wisdom reigns, there is no conflict between thinking and feeling."
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    I am an introvert and I recently read a book on the good traits of introverts - you know, they have deeper relationships, etc.

    But I have always felt like I was just introverted because I am terrified of being rejected by people. It's easier to be alone than to risk being rejected all the time. So I have seen it as an undesirable trait and I have worked hard on gaining social skills to overcome that undesirability.

    Is introversion truly a gift/positive attribute? Should I embrace it, or keep working on being more social?
    This isn't introversion, more like social insecurity.



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    Also, introversion/extraversion, it's best not to look at it in terms of good or bad. Both have unique qualities, advantages as well as disadvantages. And neither are absolute. It's just that the advantages of being introverted are often not as clear as advantages of being extraverted. For obvious reasons.
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    Extroverts sometimes wish they could shut up. Like your brain prevents you from speaking right away? Well theirs forces them to speak up or sometimes jump right into something. Nobody has it 'easy', but as fluffywolf pointed out, introverted qualities can go unnoticed, which may make them seem inferior.

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    Society doesn't like introversion because society likes society(...you understand? Because collective cohesion is necessary for there to be a society?). If you're INFJ, then be careful with that Fe. Create your own values.

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    Introversion is neutral isn't it? It's just a thing, like extroversion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    Is introversion truly a gift/positive attribute?
    Yes.

    Should I embrace it, or keep working on being more social?
    Both. The goal is not to become an extrovert, but a "comfortable introvert". Comfortable in your own skin, whether by yourself or in the presence of others. Sometimes that's a lifelong process, but that's the direction I believe we introverts should move towards.
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    ENP's are the only types that have ever made me feel like a sensor.


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