mwv6r
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Do certain opposite pairings work better than others?
The website LoveType has info about a book that recommends particular Myers-Briggs matches based on marriage satisfaction rates between partners. I was surprised that a couple of the opposite pairings seem to have high success rates but not others.
The opposites that this author's research claims are supposed to mesh well are:
INFJ + ESTP
ENFJ + ISTP
[See LoveTypes INFP Love Tips, LoveTypes ESTP Love Tips, etc. for more info. The website gave some caveats about gender but I won't go into all that here. The website also gives several "top matches" for each Myers-Briggs type.]
I'm an INFJ and my partner is an ESTP, and the opposites attracting thing is definitely true for us. I know a couple other pairings of opposites (female ISFJ + male ENTP, male INFP + female ESTJ). The ISFJ + ENTP pairing doesn't seem ideal, though of course that could just be the personalities involved rather than the Myers-Briggs types -- he cheats on her and just doesn't appreciate her in general (makes me really mad because she's a great girl!). The INFP + ESTJ pairing seems better, although I don't know them well enough to make more than a surface observation.
So I'm curious what you all think -- anyone out there want to share their experiences about dating their opposite? Do you think there's something to the INFJ+ESTP and ENFJ+ISTP pairings in particular, as the website above suggests?
Thanks!
The website LoveType has info about a book that recommends particular Myers-Briggs matches based on marriage satisfaction rates between partners. I was surprised that a couple of the opposite pairings seem to have high success rates but not others.
The opposites that this author's research claims are supposed to mesh well are:
INFJ + ESTP
ENFJ + ISTP
[See LoveTypes INFP Love Tips, LoveTypes ESTP Love Tips, etc. for more info. The website gave some caveats about gender but I won't go into all that here. The website also gives several "top matches" for each Myers-Briggs type.]
I'm an INFJ and my partner is an ESTP, and the opposites attracting thing is definitely true for us. I know a couple other pairings of opposites (female ISFJ + male ENTP, male INFP + female ESTJ). The ISFJ + ENTP pairing doesn't seem ideal, though of course that could just be the personalities involved rather than the Myers-Briggs types -- he cheats on her and just doesn't appreciate her in general (makes me really mad because she's a great girl!). The INFP + ESTJ pairing seems better, although I don't know them well enough to make more than a surface observation.
So I'm curious what you all think -- anyone out there want to share their experiences about dating their opposite? Do you think there's something to the INFJ+ESTP and ENFJ+ISTP pairings in particular, as the website above suggests?
Thanks!