Here comes a long post but sometimes this surprises me... I do communicate with my eyes, when someone does manage to cheese me right off, I can't help but focus all my digust on them--and then it's like I'm seeing their eyes up close--and as soon as we make eye contact they look quite worried despite having been agressive a second ago... it scares me a little actually but I would probably never actually say anything to them with words. Last time it happened I was absent-mindedly crossing when the cars coming in the other direction had the right of way and this car had to beep at me to stop.. this girl in the passenger side seat gave me a really ugly look and was yelling at me. I just stared at her, through her window, feeling really disgusted and she completely changed her face and kind of just stared agawk at me. Perhaps she just didn't expect me to react that way.
This happened to me once when I was heartbroken and was walking past a yappy dog, who had sad eyes like the man I was heartbroken over. As soon as I made eye contact, I felt all this love pour out and despite the fact that I was wearing sunglasses, the dog and I made direct eye contact in this way, like we were the same species, and he couldn't manage a bark out til I walked past him.
It's very weird, has this happened to any other isfp's (or any of you guys) I wonder?
Maybe it's not the eyes since my vision isn't perfect, but some dormant sixth sense, that all people are supposed to have?
Oh, but on topic... I don't think this is the shadow side of me... my shadow side is supposed to be an ENTJ? I will have to look it up. And more so to the point of your original post, well, honestly I wouldn't overanalyze it too much.. as an ISFP, if it matters, if I was her and I knew what you just assumed about her, and the romanticizing, I would probably give you a weird look and keep my distance... :/ but perfectly fine to speculate, I just wouldn't take it too seriously.