Tabula
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- Jun 16, 2010
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- MBTI Type
- IxFx
- Enneagram
- 9w1
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
My little sister is as ESFP as one could possibly be ...
She knows in which ways to conduct herself to create exactly the effect she is after, or to get exactly what she wants, and she knows that people often underestimate her - she just enjoys proving them all wrong.
When she's "on" she's ON and when she's not, fuck everyone and what they think. She's smart and she knows it, and she will choose who, when, and in which context that becomes known. She gets along with everyone for this reason, and can do just about anything she wants to do. Teachers loved her, kids loved her, adults, everyone.
This is something I've seen in my EstP brother also, and a few SP friends I have had over the years. It is one of the things I admire most about them.
I think the "dumb" perception might have more to do with the kind of relationship you have to them, the setting, and who you happen to be with than for them truly being "dumb." You might just not be privileged enough, or around them in varied enough sorts of situations to see the other sides of them.
The way my sister says things, sometimes, could give the impression of her being "ditzy" or "shallow." She's bouncy, is really into appearance, and loves to go out with friends all the time. When she's out at a party (which she is a lot of the time) she's there to have fun, not to talk about literature. All you have to do to know she is not truly dumb, ditzy, or shallow, is to change your setting to a museum and listen to her speak...
She knows in which ways to conduct herself to create exactly the effect she is after, or to get exactly what she wants, and she knows that people often underestimate her - she just enjoys proving them all wrong.

When she's "on" she's ON and when she's not, fuck everyone and what they think. She's smart and she knows it, and she will choose who, when, and in which context that becomes known. She gets along with everyone for this reason, and can do just about anything she wants to do. Teachers loved her, kids loved her, adults, everyone.
This is something I've seen in my EstP brother also, and a few SP friends I have had over the years. It is one of the things I admire most about them.
I think the "dumb" perception might have more to do with the kind of relationship you have to them, the setting, and who you happen to be with than for them truly being "dumb." You might just not be privileged enough, or around them in varied enough sorts of situations to see the other sides of them.
The way my sister says things, sometimes, could give the impression of her being "ditzy" or "shallow." She's bouncy, is really into appearance, and loves to go out with friends all the time. When she's out at a party (which she is a lot of the time) she's there to have fun, not to talk about literature. All you have to do to know she is not truly dumb, ditzy, or shallow, is to change your setting to a museum and listen to her speak...