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For those enfps who are sx/so can you discuss how you view social status?
I (sp/sx enfp) am struggling a bit as of late I have noted what seems to be social games of some sort from sx/so enfps around me. Its like they are insecure in their own social standing, so look for ways to inform me of how they are better than me. Ill be honest that I go months oblivious (and intentionally ignoring) this behavior, as social status is rather meaningless to me, lol, and I just keep on forging ahead. That is, until they do something overtly obnoxious and too obvious to pretend it is an accidental misspoken comment.
With one of the enfps, I just keep on keeping on, because, in all honesty, I outshine that person in competency. I cant play the social status game, but I can play the "as you can see by my skills at execution, I appear to be exceptionally competent, so uh, yeah...." and shrug my shoulders. With some of the others, I am placed in a position of being disrespected, assuming it is with the goal of making them feel more confident about themselves and that simply isnt ok. I dont play the social status game, but Im also not a doormat either.
What are ways to support an sx/so enfp, so they dont feel insecure and do feel valued? I assume taking the high road and learning to care for them is much better than playing ugly games, so would prefer to just see them happy and secure, and not be ugly in return when they behave a bit not nicely. They are genuinely good people with good values, but I think they are just in a negative moment.
I (sp/sx enfp) am struggling a bit as of late I have noted what seems to be social games of some sort from sx/so enfps around me. Its like they are insecure in their own social standing, so look for ways to inform me of how they are better than me. Ill be honest that I go months oblivious (and intentionally ignoring) this behavior, as social status is rather meaningless to me, lol, and I just keep on forging ahead. That is, until they do something overtly obnoxious and too obvious to pretend it is an accidental misspoken comment.
With one of the enfps, I just keep on keeping on, because, in all honesty, I outshine that person in competency. I cant play the social status game, but I can play the "as you can see by my skills at execution, I appear to be exceptionally competent, so uh, yeah...." and shrug my shoulders. With some of the others, I am placed in a position of being disrespected, assuming it is with the goal of making them feel more confident about themselves and that simply isnt ok. I dont play the social status game, but Im also not a doormat either.
What are ways to support an sx/so enfp, so they dont feel insecure and do feel valued? I assume taking the high road and learning to care for them is much better than playing ugly games, so would prefer to just see them happy and secure, and not be ugly in return when they behave a bit not nicely. They are genuinely good people with good values, but I think they are just in a negative moment.