Cupcakefrog
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- Dec 3, 2013
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- MBTI Type
- INFJ
I didn't know what it was until recently. But I think it might be exactly what I find sexy in a person when I meet them. Well, I might not be aware of it immediately, and I will be honest and say that it must be accompanied with a certain amount of physical appeal for me to really fall. But I really think the Ni does most of the work.
I see plenty of "objectively" attractive people on a regular basis (I know this is a dumb thing to say in a way, but come on, you know what I mean) but I become intrigued only if there is something in their demeanor, something in their eye, and the way they carry themselves, that has an air of depth and mystery to it. Even people who wouldn't be considered "objectively" attractive become attractive to me once I notice this.
So many people are so obvious. They just say whatever they are thinking and usually its not all that interesting or its actually just plain ignorant. They are predictable. The paradox I guess, is that actually what I have come to recognize as Ni is now becoming completely obvious to me as well (but in a GOOD way).
Someone with what I am starting to believe is Ni, will perhaps not say anything, and yet the subtlety of their facial expression will leave me wanting more. It's like I know there is just so much more going on inside than they are revealing, and yet they appear so calm. I'm realizing now that I might find INTJs particularly attractive in that they also look so confident, even playful in the right setting. I'm not sure. People always tell me I seem so "chilled out" or "on an even keel", but I sometimes think I look a little distressed. Apparently not though, I don't know. But when I look in their eyes it is as if I can hear them saying loud and clear, "yes, we have an understanding of sorts". It's thrilling.
On the other hand, something I heard today struck me. "most people are better in the abstract". Could it be that the reserved nature of Ni just allows me to fantasize about all the beautiful and/or intelligent things they must be thinking? I think this is a good reality check. But, I still believe that it attracts me because it seems there is still a large probability that they actually are more interesting and thoughtful than the average person who unreflectively feels the need to openly express their every vain and mundane thought for all to hear.
I know I have some vain and mundane thoughts, who doesn't. But I think if someone can realize that these aren't the type of thoughts to follow further or express unnecessarily, this alone would imply that there are in fact a larger than average amount of deeper and more thoughtful insights happening in there as well.
I do want to make sure I am realistic about people though. When I take this perceived mystery and intelligence and run away with it, I begin to get a little obsessed.....maybe even a lot in some special cases.
**also, perhaps its just anyone with an introverted dominant function; Ti or Fi and not just Ni.....I'm still new at this.
I see plenty of "objectively" attractive people on a regular basis (I know this is a dumb thing to say in a way, but come on, you know what I mean) but I become intrigued only if there is something in their demeanor, something in their eye, and the way they carry themselves, that has an air of depth and mystery to it. Even people who wouldn't be considered "objectively" attractive become attractive to me once I notice this.
So many people are so obvious. They just say whatever they are thinking and usually its not all that interesting or its actually just plain ignorant. They are predictable. The paradox I guess, is that actually what I have come to recognize as Ni is now becoming completely obvious to me as well (but in a GOOD way).
Someone with what I am starting to believe is Ni, will perhaps not say anything, and yet the subtlety of their facial expression will leave me wanting more. It's like I know there is just so much more going on inside than they are revealing, and yet they appear so calm. I'm realizing now that I might find INTJs particularly attractive in that they also look so confident, even playful in the right setting. I'm not sure. People always tell me I seem so "chilled out" or "on an even keel", but I sometimes think I look a little distressed. Apparently not though, I don't know. But when I look in their eyes it is as if I can hear them saying loud and clear, "yes, we have an understanding of sorts". It's thrilling.
On the other hand, something I heard today struck me. "most people are better in the abstract". Could it be that the reserved nature of Ni just allows me to fantasize about all the beautiful and/or intelligent things they must be thinking? I think this is a good reality check. But, I still believe that it attracts me because it seems there is still a large probability that they actually are more interesting and thoughtful than the average person who unreflectively feels the need to openly express their every vain and mundane thought for all to hear.
I know I have some vain and mundane thoughts, who doesn't. But I think if someone can realize that these aren't the type of thoughts to follow further or express unnecessarily, this alone would imply that there are in fact a larger than average amount of deeper and more thoughtful insights happening in there as well.
I do want to make sure I am realistic about people though. When I take this perceived mystery and intelligence and run away with it, I begin to get a little obsessed.....maybe even a lot in some special cases.
**also, perhaps its just anyone with an introverted dominant function; Ti or Fi and not just Ni.....I'm still new at this.
