INTJMom
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I must be such an MBTT nerd because one of the things I'm MOST excited about is my Se finally kicking in! 
I think that means I'm going to be generally more observant, right? Hmm... What else...
"Extraverted Sensing occurs when we become aware of what is in the physical world in rich detail. We may be drawn to act on what we experience to get an immediate result. We notice relevant facts and occurrences in a sea of data and experiences, learning all the facts we can about the immediate context or area of focus and what goes on in that context. An active seeking of more and more input to get the whole picture may occur until all sources of input have been exhausted or something else captures our attention. Extraverted Sensing is operating when we freely follow exciting physical impulses or instincts as they come up and enjoy the thrill of action in the present moment. A oneness with the physical world and a total absorption may exist as we move, touch, and sense what is around us. The process involves instantly reading cues to see how far we can go in a situation and still get the impact we want or respond to the situation with presence."
http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/extravertedsensing.html
Oh good. That explains why I have been noticing the mess in the house more!
Great. Well, at least my husband will be happier when the house gets cleaned more frequently.
My husband is horrible at keeping secrets. I told him I was going to dye my hair before my birthday. So he asks me, "How soon after you dye your hair can you get it wet again or take a shower?" I answered, "Right away." Now if he had left it at that, I probably wouldn't have suspected a thing. But No... he asks, "Well, how long do you have to wait before going in the ocean or a pool?" Ok. Stupid question that has nothing to do with the here and now... therefore I now know he has booked a night in a hotel with a pool. Which is great! I LOVE it! I don't tell him I know... well I did later. But I don't know where, so that's still a surprise. However it's also a little anti-climactic since we've talked about going to a hotel with a pool for my birthday for the last three years. If I recall correctly, 3 years ago, that's all I got for my birthday... a TALK about going to a hotel. But anyway... *lets bygones be bygones*
So then... why he talks about secret stuff when I'm in the SAME ROOM I really don't know. Maybe they DO think I'm stupid? What I've gathered so far is that it appears our children are NOT going with us to said hotel. If it ends up just being the two of us, I am going to be disappointed. Of course, I can't TELL him I'm disappointed because then he whines and complains and has a pity party about how he can never do anything right and about how I am so hard to please. But my husband, bless his heart, has not been very enjoyable to be around for the last 15 years. It was about then that I lost any desire to be alone with him for long. He is angry, frustrated, critical and complaining almost constantly. He is rough and insensitive... definitely not the happy-go-lucky guy I married. Though the last 3 -4 years have seen improvement, I guess I still have a hard time trusting him with my thoughts and feelings because his first response is always gruff. Anyway, the last thing I want is to be alone with my husband on my birthday. There will be planty of time for that when the kids are too busy for us.
I did ask for a lobster dinner - that reminds me, I'm gonna order them ahead of time - and my mom gave me $200 so I can buy some 2 pound lobsters for me and my husband and my kids. We're having those Saturday night. Okay... just ordered the lobsters. Yum!!
A jumbo lobster - between 2 and 3 pounds is $10/lb in Maine in January! Can you believe it?! Two months ago, lobster was selling so poorly it was down to $4/lb. for the one pounders. I did my part in helping out the lobstermen during that time. 
Anyway, I'm going to try to have a good attitude if I am stuck with my husband tonight. Maybe he will be nice on purpose, and it will be fun.
I think that means I'm going to be generally more observant, right? Hmm... What else... "Extraverted Sensing occurs when we become aware of what is in the physical world in rich detail. We may be drawn to act on what we experience to get an immediate result. We notice relevant facts and occurrences in a sea of data and experiences, learning all the facts we can about the immediate context or area of focus and what goes on in that context. An active seeking of more and more input to get the whole picture may occur until all sources of input have been exhausted or something else captures our attention. Extraverted Sensing is operating when we freely follow exciting physical impulses or instincts as they come up and enjoy the thrill of action in the present moment. A oneness with the physical world and a total absorption may exist as we move, touch, and sense what is around us. The process involves instantly reading cues to see how far we can go in a situation and still get the impact we want or respond to the situation with presence."
http://www.cognitiveprocesses.com/extravertedsensing.html
Oh good. That explains why I have been noticing the mess in the house more!
Great. Well, at least my husband will be happier when the house gets cleaned more frequently.My husband is horrible at keeping secrets. I told him I was going to dye my hair before my birthday. So he asks me, "How soon after you dye your hair can you get it wet again or take a shower?" I answered, "Right away." Now if he had left it at that, I probably wouldn't have suspected a thing. But No... he asks, "Well, how long do you have to wait before going in the ocean or a pool?" Ok. Stupid question that has nothing to do with the here and now... therefore I now know he has booked a night in a hotel with a pool. Which is great! I LOVE it! I don't tell him I know... well I did later. But I don't know where, so that's still a surprise. However it's also a little anti-climactic since we've talked about going to a hotel with a pool for my birthday for the last three years. If I recall correctly, 3 years ago, that's all I got for my birthday... a TALK about going to a hotel. But anyway... *lets bygones be bygones*
So then... why he talks about secret stuff when I'm in the SAME ROOM I really don't know. Maybe they DO think I'm stupid? What I've gathered so far is that it appears our children are NOT going with us to said hotel. If it ends up just being the two of us, I am going to be disappointed. Of course, I can't TELL him I'm disappointed because then he whines and complains and has a pity party about how he can never do anything right and about how I am so hard to please. But my husband, bless his heart, has not been very enjoyable to be around for the last 15 years. It was about then that I lost any desire to be alone with him for long. He is angry, frustrated, critical and complaining almost constantly. He is rough and insensitive... definitely not the happy-go-lucky guy I married. Though the last 3 -4 years have seen improvement, I guess I still have a hard time trusting him with my thoughts and feelings because his first response is always gruff. Anyway, the last thing I want is to be alone with my husband on my birthday. There will be planty of time for that when the kids are too busy for us.
I did ask for a lobster dinner - that reminds me, I'm gonna order them ahead of time - and my mom gave me $200 so I can buy some 2 pound lobsters for me and my husband and my kids. We're having those Saturday night. Okay... just ordered the lobsters. Yum!!
A jumbo lobster - between 2 and 3 pounds is $10/lb in Maine in January! Can you believe it?! Two months ago, lobster was selling so poorly it was down to $4/lb. for the one pounders. I did my part in helping out the lobstermen during that time. Anyway, I'm going to try to have a good attitude if I am stuck with my husband tonight. Maybe he will be nice on purpose, and it will be fun.
