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My mother tounge is not english so my descriptions might be too general or not precise enough. Please ask for details and clarification!
Soooo, I'd like to type my sister so I understand how she works. I can't feel that she connects to me at all emotionally. She doesn't reach out to me (or probably we just "speak a different language"). I'd like to become more sensitive to her "language". Because I keep attacking her with emotions and she doesn't seem to be reacting.
I don't know much about how she works cognitivly (she doesn't talk to me much), so I'll try to describe her behaviour as objectively as I can.
She's a perfectionist.
She works as a PR person. But according to my mom she'd like to do something more creative.
She's very good at winning arguments and poking holes into my logic. She can "manipulate" people into seeing things her way, convince them to do what she wants.
I get the feeling that she's observant of/understands people's behaviour. Like, she's attentive when she chooses birthday gifts, she personalizes them.
She has a good sense of style. She likes cloths, she has a lot of them....half of them on her bed or floor......
She used to study photography and still take good photos. She always captures the detailes. She knows how to make a good composision.
She likes literature. Probably wrote poems/stories in her teens.
When she's overwhelmed, she breaks down emotionally. She goes into child mood, she wants cuddles and attention but wants to be left alone in the same time. And she doesn't accept any advice. When I saw her this way, it was because she got some job to do and she didn't have enough information on it or it involved other factors, that she couldn't calculate or didn't have time to do a perfect job. Maybe she didn't feel in control...
When she had a paper to do in university she always started last minute and worked on it till morning.
She sometimes "imagines" how it would feel/taste like before she decides if she wants to eat more or when trying out new food. I don't understand what's happaning when she does this. And according to her, food can have either "deep" or "high" flavors.
I thought she wasn't sporty, but now that she has a sporty boyfriend, she bikes, runs, hikes...
She can sulk and hold a grudge for a long time.
My mother tounge is not english so my descriptions might be too general or not precise enough. Please ask for details and clarification!
Soooo, I'd like to type my sister so I understand how she works. I can't feel that she connects to me at all emotionally. She doesn't reach out to me (or probably we just "speak a different language"). I'd like to become more sensitive to her "language". Because I keep attacking her with emotions and she doesn't seem to be reacting.
I don't know much about how she works cognitivly (she doesn't talk to me much), so I'll try to describe her behaviour as objectively as I can.
She's a perfectionist.
She works as a PR person. But according to my mom she'd like to do something more creative.
She's very good at winning arguments and poking holes into my logic. She can "manipulate" people into seeing things her way, convince them to do what she wants.
I get the feeling that she's observant of/understands people's behaviour. Like, she's attentive when she chooses birthday gifts, she personalizes them.
She has a good sense of style. She likes cloths, she has a lot of them....half of them on her bed or floor......
She used to study photography and still take good photos. She always captures the detailes. She knows how to make a good composision.
She likes literature. Probably wrote poems/stories in her teens.
When she's overwhelmed, she breaks down emotionally. She goes into child mood, she wants cuddles and attention but wants to be left alone in the same time. And she doesn't accept any advice. When I saw her this way, it was because she got some job to do and she didn't have enough information on it or it involved other factors, that she couldn't calculate or didn't have time to do a perfect job. Maybe she didn't feel in control...
When she had a paper to do in university she always started last minute and worked on it till morning.
She sometimes "imagines" how it would feel/taste like before she decides if she wants to eat more or when trying out new food. I don't understand what's happaning when she does this. And according to her, food can have either "deep" or "high" flavors.
I thought she wasn't sporty, but now that she has a sporty boyfriend, she bikes, runs, hikes...
She can sulk and hold a grudge for a long time.