Similarly, I admit that I ignore social conventions but I also deny that this is for attention - it's either because I'm oblivious to them and don't actually notice, or because I sincerely believe observing them is pointless and unconstructive for the situation at hand.
agree with this too. i don't do that for attention. i wouldn't even know HOW to do that for attention. if i did, i'd feel fake as hell and self-conscious.
most of the time, what i'm doing that's against the social conventions is ignoring them altogether (the
people, that is, with the conventions being ignored as a side-effect of my ignoring the people, or what people want me to think, care about, do, etc.), and that in itself seems to piss people off.
again, it's because i don't worry all the time about what others are thinking about me. they'll think what they want to think no matter what i do.
It can be quite hurtful sometimes when my natural enthusiasm is labelled as arrogance and attention whoring.
why is it so hard for some to believe that wanting attention is not a pre-requisite for getting attention?
i've come to the conclusion that it's people who want attention and
aren't getting it that bemoan others that do, so when someone else does get attention, they simply can't believe that the person didn't TRY.
So maybe I'd put it in a list of non-ENTP people's flaws:
- Always assume that anyone who's passionate and enthusiastic is arrogant and egotistical.
- Always assume that anyone who gets attention wants it, loves it and did something on purpose to get it, rather than consider the possibility that they might've just merited it.
meh... why bother.
really...sounds like something I would do
ha. yes, the INTJs i've known have said the same thing. however, i won't lie, i do have that in common with them to a certain extent. people don't necessarily have to have a use set in my mind, but i know they have one. meaning, i don't have to consciously know what a person's use is, i just know there is one. everyone has uses. and, while i don't go beyond watching closely and noticing potential, it doesn't become completely conscious until it's necessary to use their skills.
which sounds worse than it is.
personally, i think all people do that to some extent.
(sorry, had to break that up to make sure it wouldn't get cut off. also, i said so much because you people made me by saying shit i agreed with.)