[INFJ] Question For INFJs

[Norrsken]

Have you ever been so surprised at your own abrasive behavior towards other? As if it just appeared out of nowhere sometimes? What I mean is, have you ever told someone something, and maybe you said it a bit too sternly or dryly, and they looked at you in absolute shock? And then later on someone would laugh and tell you that you kind of stepped over the line there, and you feel awful because you know that's not how you really are but you sometimes cannot help it?

I hope I make sense. Just wondering.

 

[Kelly777]

I feel like I am super empathetic and always concerned with the way I affect people around me but it's like I have this alter ego that comes out sometimes. I can be very blunt. If I'm pushed too far I can be downright cold and ruthless. I wasn't aware of this when I was younger and tended to project it onto others. Then I felt guilty about it. But I've been in some tight spots, even dangerous situations and that side of me has served me well. So, yes. I hope you meant mbti infj not socionics infj. Lol.

 

[Forever]

Maybe not in the way you mention it because no one is that nice enough to let me know. But it sometimes make me believe I have weak Fe. It's a trade-off though.. shun creativity/intuition or try to over-worry about offending others.

 

[meowington]

I've been called blunt occasionaly. Which is very paradoxal to my overall empathic nature. Sometimes my Ni is so quick that my Fe has no time to wrap it as a gift present

 

[Froody Blue Gem]

When I let things build up and push them to the back of my mind, sometimes. The majority of the time, I'm in control, while the fe helps to navigate through the situation, I'm able to keep things under control. It is a tool that helps see the mood, while having my own emotions, but these are kept somewhat in check. There is a certain amount of detachment there but there are a few triggers/buttons that when they get pressed, that control flies out the window.

There are times when this is not the case. I just got snappish, somewhere between defensive and passive aggressive and just all around horrible, with someone recently, I regret what I said to them. I'm reluctant to apologize because I don't put it past myself not to repeat the behavior and if I do, the apology won't really be that sincere.

 

[tommyc]

I have to say I cant rmbr a time when I was abrasive. Im always careful in how I express myself, always try and soften the edges, and I rarely lose control of that. I do get angry at people but thats only for protection purposes, when I feel someones disrespected me or overstepped a boundary. Then I need to let them know, firmly.