No. This is a type of socially acceptable game playing that I find aggravating.
No. This is a type of socially acceptable game playing that I find aggravating.
I think it is not so much deliberate manipulation or selfishness, but the assumption that other people are like you, and will share your preferences. In fact, it conforms to a common statement of the Golden Rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." This is why I never put much stock in that Golden Rule. Better to understand what the other person wants or needs, and then try to accommodate that if your goal is to be polite, or better yet, kind.Not sure if I'm seeing the same thing, as such, but I find it aggravating as well. It rings slightly manipulative to me. Like, "I'm going to do what serves my own needs here, but I'm going to put a veneer of thoughtfulness on it so that I don't feel/appear selfish." It's not always the case - if the person reacted to my protest by immediately offering to do the opposite, then it might seem sincere. But for the most part, I associate the kind of utterances in the cartoon with people putting a thoughtful face on self-serving actions.
Not sure if I'm seeing the same thing, as such, but I find it aggravating as well. It rings slightly manipulative to me. Like, "I'm going to do what serves my own needs here, but I'm going to put a veneer of thoughtfulness on it so that I don't feel/appear selfish." It's not always the case - if the person reacted to my protest by immediately offering to do the opposite, then it might seem sincere. But for the most part, I associate the kind of utterances in the cartoon with people putting a thoughtful face on self-serving actions.
As far as whether it's extroverted vs introverted manipulation - yeah, that seems an apt dichotomy to me.