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[scantilyclad]

I want to divorce my family right now. I don't even know how i came from these people. I'll make a long story short.
My grandma came to Texas this weekend.
she calls and asks where i am.
I say i'm at a gay pride parade.
she scoffs and says that i should be ashamed of myself.
I get offended, and i say that i don't think that is true and hang up.
when i get home from the parade i go to see my grandma.
i get lectured about how i'm going to hell because i associate and support gay rights.
I get very upset and tell my whole family that i think they are full of shit (pretty out of character for me, i was very offended/upset) and i leave.


how dare them. how fucking dare them, seriously. even my 13 year old cousin was chiming in to say that i was going down a "dark path".

other than all the drama that went down today after the parade, i had a great weekend. I really love my friends and i'm glad i have them to love and support me.

 

[Illict91]

Don't worry Scantilyclad, People like that are just complete conformists's and happen to base their opinions on emotion and silly dogma Understanding its family, you must continue to respect them but hey! They can't ever change your outlook and make those viewpoints clear.

Sounds like the typical "SJ" to me

 

[INTJMom]

I don't blame you for feeling the way you do.
My family does the same thing to me.
We are at opposite ends of the worldview spectrum.
I usually just keep my thoughts to myself,
and leave the room when they start spouting their nonsense.

I hope you will continue to love and respect your grandma.
Being an INFP, I'm pretty sure you will.

 

[scantilyclad]

Well i'm forgiving to a fault, so everyone will be forgiven in due time, but currently i'm still very offended and i can't help but to dwell on it.

what upsets me the most is that my grandma is my favorite person on this planet, and for her to treat me like the rest of my family does, really hurt. She usually accepts me for who i am.

 

[gomi]

I find it interesting how difficult people from an older generation have adapting to the newer. From things technologically oriented, such as using a cell phone or computer, to acknowledging that racism and homophobia isn't acceptable in today's society. My sister is a lesbian, and I find my mother's daily battle with whether to write her off completely, or accept her, curious. On the one hand, she's her daughter and should be loved unconditionally. On the other, my mother's fear/hatred of homosexual relationships is so deeply ingrained, I bet you she couldn't come up with one reason against it. Aside from 'the bible says so.' Which to me, is not a valid (read: logical) reason...

Your family's reaction is unfortunate, but not unusual. We'd all hope for those so close to us to be a little more worldly/enlightened. I offer you my support in your trials.

PS- your 13 yr-old cousin used the phrase, "A dark path?"

Wow.

 

[Jeffster]

As usual, my view is somewhere in between. I don't believe homosexual relationships are right, but I also don't believe you're going to hell for disagreeing with me. I think on both sides of a conflict like this, people can stand up for their views but still love their family, it's hard, but I know it's possible. I've certainly had to do it with my family a lot. Hang in there.

 

[INTJMom]

Sorry about your grandma. Now I see why it hurt you so deeply. I've been hurt by my favorite people, too. I don't know what else to say. Sorry for your pain.

 

[Synarch]

When you get older you won't give a crap what your family thinks. Just love them as they are and ignore them like everyone else does. Above all, don't let it bother you.

 

[heart]

It's really to not give a crap what the people you care most for think of you. It's because of her love for her Grandmother that this conflict hurts so bad.

I don't talk politics with my sister, we both avoid the subject like the plague. If it comes up, I just let anything she says slide. I try to understand why she believes what she does.

Like she says she prays that I won't go to hell because I lived in "sin" with my husband during our dating. I try to understand that she loves me and really does believe she needs to pray for me in this way. It's her way of loving me!

I just don't know what to say except, I am feeling your pain here.