- Oct 25, 2017
- MBTI Type
- Instinctual Variant
This is probably going to sound really ignorant but I'm going for it anyways. What is it like to have an overwhelmingly negative body image (in terms of perhaps health or shape)? Also what do you think would be the best way to support one who has these feelings?
I'm trying to support a family member with a very poor body image (ie. she thinks she's fat and ugly but she's pretty average/perhaps slightly underweight), but every time I try to be supportive or rationalize this I end up coming off abrupt or not providing feedback that is meaningful. My empathy is typically a bit better than this but this is somewhat a blind spot of mine it appears...
(Also sorry if this is in the wrong section, I was debating on putting this in the advice section but it's kind of health related so idk).
Folks, real or imagined, your poor body image is probably a blessing in disguise, so embrace your granny panties and your baggy jeans. For those who attain the perfect body and flaunt it, thereâ€™s a hard lesson to be learned in an irony that Iâ€™d liken to a lonely rich man realizing his money will neither buy him true love, nor real friends.
I think if one doesnâ€™t have realistic expectations and a realistic view of themselves to begin with, a superficial effort to attain physical perfection will likely render an unrewarding and unfulfilling outcome thatâ€™s as disappointing and superficial as the people one will likely attract.
This is not on topic. RadicalDoubt asked what it's like to have negative body image. And for help in making someone else feel better. You lack understanding of the entire situation, and your response is not helpful at all. It's unsympathetic and condescending.
Do you have any idea what it's like to feel like you aren't good enough to be loved or liked or wanted? Do you really think that people who feel this way are really only being superficial and seeking perfection? There's a lot of shame associated with this topic, and you coming here to tell people that they should feel thankful for having that shame is just a slap in the face.