This is my first post ever in my life at 24 lol. Obviously it's important to me. I'm not 100% sure what my personality type is, I do agree that I may be mostly ISTP but I've also gotten INFP as well as other types with different tests. I can say that I don't have trouble expressing myself at all & although before I did have issues with sticking to something/someone I have worked on that & even if I don't like everything 100% I can stick to it & be happy. Which is contrary to ISTP. With all that being said for some context, here's the situation.
My girlfriend and I have been having a lot of trouble lately. She is an INFJ. Right now we haven't even spoken in 2 weeks. Everything "seemed" fine and then in a snap things changed. She recently started another job & I feel since that time it's been hard to spend time together & she has closed up. I have a very difficult time understanding her as her expressions are usually very thin. Just 2 months ago or so she couldn't wait to get out of work to talk to me, then it was as if she started to avoid or ignore me. It kind of just snowballed. There was no "conflict" until 2 weeks ago when we stopped talking. It wasn't an all out argument or anything similar, for the most part it was calm. At times I feel like she may not care anymore. I'm the closest person in her life though. There's nobody that she's opened up to more than I ever, not even close. Since I'm being very private on this site & really only here to seek help with understanding her, there's 2 other issues she's been through that maybe someone here can relate to. Sadly when she was a child she had a very bad family situation & a few years ago she was sexually abused. I'm sure these things affect her very much as well. I'm seeking for any type of advice because she really means the world to me. I'm not without my faults but I would truly hate if she dated some guy in the future who's just going to hurt her. She doesn't deserve that & I want to make her happy. Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance.
My girlfriend and I have been having a lot of trouble lately. She is an INFJ. Right now we haven't even spoken in 2 weeks. Everything "seemed" fine and then in a snap things changed. She recently started another job & I feel since that time it's been hard to spend time together & she has closed up. I have a very difficult time understanding her as her expressions are usually very thin. Just 2 months ago or so she couldn't wait to get out of work to talk to me, then it was as if she started to avoid or ignore me. It kind of just snowballed. There was no "conflict" until 2 weeks ago when we stopped talking. It wasn't an all out argument or anything similar, for the most part it was calm. At times I feel like she may not care anymore. I'm the closest person in her life though. There's nobody that she's opened up to more than I ever, not even close. Since I'm being very private on this site & really only here to seek help with understanding her, there's 2 other issues she's been through that maybe someone here can relate to. Sadly when she was a child she had a very bad family situation & a few years ago she was sexually abused. I'm sure these things affect her very much as well. I'm seeking for any type of advice because she really means the world to me. I'm not without my faults but I would truly hate if she dated some guy in the future who's just going to hurt her. She doesn't deserve that & I want to make her happy. Any help is appreciated. Thanks in advance.
