Thalassa
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I think the mistake I made with the person formerly known as ESFP is that I ascribed the individuality of
Ji with Fi and the fact that he and I have some extremely similar thought processes (we re-create sensory memory as though we are actually reliving them, sometimes even in a spontaneous or unhealthy way... and we both have shitty impulse control especially in regards to emotion and are both passionate people who are willing to experiment sexually ) with us being a similar type. I think we are similar and probably both have Se (There's the Se flares of temper or passion, and highly detailed sensory memory) but I am now thinking as I did originally that he is actually an STP. His way of making logic and ethics are different than mine, especially his way of making ethics. ..he cares more about either going with his family morals entirely, or excluding them completely, if he can't go along with their Fe he simply shuts down and guards his privacy jealously. I thought this was Fi but no, because his family moral code seems like his main frame of reference, his mother's approval, or completely avoiding their bullshit as he sees it entirely. He also, in regards to me, tries to guess what would avoid making me mad, and his primary concern seems to be avoiding making me mad by performing specific actions rather than understanding that his honesty is more important to me and that I am highly flexible on specific actions, there aren't set "rules" and that his honesty, respect and quality time are more important. He just has different logic for doing things than what I thought, I take some things too personally, and he doesn't understand why, so he just tries to guess right or thinks I am just being a bitch and gives up entirely. I think he is an STP who is used to having an ESFJ mother and maybe even SFJ girlfriends, and he really thinks things are that specific and rule bound, or let's just ignore entirely. I could be wrong, but I had been hating him lately and was shocked to find that he thinks about the same events in a different way, and that
sometimes his motives are related to his own anxiety, that he isn't as selfish sometimes as I thought (at least not in his head) and the fact that he even took so long to even bother to explain himself to me reeks of STP.
I tinkz.
By the way, this is a good thing regardless, we actually bonded tonight and I think have a better understanding. (He will not take the test, btw, he only took the rough Keirsey temperament sorter like two years ago and shockingly came up NF, which is why I changed my assessment from STP to ESFP....I think it's possible though now he just has some weird aspiring Fe, maybe he's an ESTP with Fe in a stronger but still weird position. ..and no I don't think FJ is remotely possible).
Ji with Fi and the fact that he and I have some extremely similar thought processes (we re-create sensory memory as though we are actually reliving them, sometimes even in a spontaneous or unhealthy way... and we both have shitty impulse control especially in regards to emotion and are both passionate people who are willing to experiment sexually ) with us being a similar type. I think we are similar and probably both have Se (There's the Se flares of temper or passion, and highly detailed sensory memory) but I am now thinking as I did originally that he is actually an STP. His way of making logic and ethics are different than mine, especially his way of making ethics. ..he cares more about either going with his family morals entirely, or excluding them completely, if he can't go along with their Fe he simply shuts down and guards his privacy jealously. I thought this was Fi but no, because his family moral code seems like his main frame of reference, his mother's approval, or completely avoiding their bullshit as he sees it entirely. He also, in regards to me, tries to guess what would avoid making me mad, and his primary concern seems to be avoiding making me mad by performing specific actions rather than understanding that his honesty is more important to me and that I am highly flexible on specific actions, there aren't set "rules" and that his honesty, respect and quality time are more important. He just has different logic for doing things than what I thought, I take some things too personally, and he doesn't understand why, so he just tries to guess right or thinks I am just being a bitch and gives up entirely. I think he is an STP who is used to having an ESFJ mother and maybe even SFJ girlfriends, and he really thinks things are that specific and rule bound, or let's just ignore entirely. I could be wrong, but I had been hating him lately and was shocked to find that he thinks about the same events in a different way, and that
sometimes his motives are related to his own anxiety, that he isn't as selfish sometimes as I thought (at least not in his head) and the fact that he even took so long to even bother to explain himself to me reeks of STP.
I tinkz.
By the way, this is a good thing regardless, we actually bonded tonight and I think have a better understanding. (He will not take the test, btw, he only took the rough Keirsey temperament sorter like two years ago and shockingly came up NF, which is why I changed my assessment from STP to ESFP....I think it's possible though now he just has some weird aspiring Fe, maybe he's an ESTP with Fe in a stronger but still weird position. ..and no I don't think FJ is remotely possible).
