[INFJ] INFJs in love!

[Sniffles]

Seriously, is there anything more pathetic in the world?

 

[scantilyclad]

nope.

 

[cafe]

Hah! Have you never seen a smitten INTP??

 

[disregard]

If it is pathetic, it is not love, but attachment to a pleasing reflection of yours in another.

 

[cafe]

If it is pathetic, it is not love, but attachment to a pleasing reflection of yours in another.

Love can begin that way, too. It's just not grown up yet. Though truth be told, my beloved is still a bit pathetic in his smittenness and I suppose that I may be a bit, too. And I'm pretty sure by now that it's as close as real love as it gets.

 

[disregard]

That is very true... it certainly may grow after attachment has subsided... Love is so bright and attachment so dark that they cannot coexist. One engulfs the other.

 

[cafe]

I'm not sure we are thinking of attachment in the same way.

 

[disregard]

That is likely. I don't mean to offend you.

 

[Eileen]

Hah! Have you never seen a smitten INTP??

It really is a sight to behold. I dated an INTP for three years; at the beginning of the affair, we were to travel to Utah together to do a research project for a professor, and he wrote me a letter about how the only important things in the world were the desert and me. An INTP can get DOWNRIGHT SAPPY. In a totally awesome and original way.

 

[cafe]

It really is a sight to behold. I dated an INTP for three years; at the beginning of the affair, we were to travel to Utah together to do a research project for a professor, and he wrote me a letter about how the only important things in the world were the desert and me. An INTP can get DOWNRIGHT SAPPY. In a totally awesome and original way.

People who haven't seen it have NO idea. I was really smitten with Don and it was still a bit much and kind of . . . overwhelming. If I thought he would be that extreme for fifty plus years, I would have run. Fortunately, I correctly anticipated that it was the work of infatuation and it would subside.

I mean, the first time we kissed, people on campus knew because he was lit up like a Christmas tree. I was the sensible one.

That is likely. I don't mean to offend you.

No worries.

 

[heart]

Seriously, is there anything more pathetic in the world?

Can you expound on your reasons for saying this?

 

[Giggly]

Can you expound on your reasons for saying this?

I was wondering the same thing.

 

[cafe]

I think he means the cute kind of pathetic. As in "inspiring sympathy or compassion" instead of "arousing scornful pity or contempt."

 

[karenk]

I think he means because we idealize the person and have our head in the clouds. Well that's a guess. Actually, what do you mean?

 

[Sniffles]

I think he means because we idealize the person and have our head in the clouds. Well that's a guess.

Yeah that's pretty much the main idea.

Although do bear in mind, I'm also being sarcastic - a chance to laugh at ourselves. At least for me to laugh at myself, since I'm going through an episode of heart-ache now and humour is good medicine.