No, I don't think it was ever #1 in my priorities, as I always had this notion that I 'should' be able to find centeredness/balance/happiness on my own, without a need for someone else. I also think my #1 priority was/is in the end Balance on all levels, and a close romantic relationship is one element of many that I always wanted to work on. It alone wasn't going to bring me happiness, as there were many other elements/pieces which were also required, and for me to fall into the mistaken notion of thinking the 'perfect' person would make me utterly happy would be setting myself up for disappointment / a harsh reality slap when I realized that wasn't everything. (fwiw I think if we're gonna stick with personality theories to discuss this topic, enneagram is going to be just as impactful/differentiating as mbti).
That said, I always was/am desirous of very meaningful 'connections', and my feeling I'm lacking in those makes me very unhappy and I start thinking something is wrong with me. I've definitely had a number of 'phases' over the past 15 years where I felt intensely lonely, and that's when I would become more preoccupied with trying to meet people, etc. So I *absolutely* need a few really solid friendships/relationships, and if I have even a few, I am happy.
And I've also historically always wanted a partner, so would put myself in situations (internet dating) to try to maximize meeting someone. Most of the time that didn't work and nothing came of it, but I'm now in a 1.5 yr relationship and am very very happy. So maybe everything I just wrote above is total intellectualization and in the end I DO really 'need' that relationship with someone I really care for to feel whole and human. But then I think to myself... this is probably such a human thing. We just play little mental games thinking we don't need/want something, or trying to convince ourselves we don't, when in reality we do. I do, at least.
I don't think it ever drove me, though.... seeing as I have always chosen loneliness /independence over being with just anyone, and have had multi-year stretches of not being in relationships, simply because I never really met anyone where mutual feelings existed/ they were who I could see myself with for the longterm. The fact that this bothered me, though... well, maybe that's what's really telling, and the answer.
(age 33)