Would this relationship last? How would this relationship work out?
My bf is an ENFP. The first time I met him, it was instant chemistry/connection. We get along perfectly and we are always very loving and caring toward each other. But there were a few things that makes me insecure about him. For example, his inability to keep plans etc. And also, I heard that ENFPs have a difficult time committing in relationships. Is this true?
I can't wait to hear from the ENFPs--Lucky girl
What is the nature of the plans that he isn't keeping? How long have you been a couple? (How well did you know each other first? I'm not expecting you to actually share this, but to think about it)
Where is he going; who's driving, him, or his interests? What's going on in his life? Does he feel like he's found his balance? (WHAT DO
you want? Where are you--living in the future, or do you feel that you have arrived?) (Lots of questions)
It feels counter intuitive to say, "Don't get ahead of yourself; don't over think it", but the most important foundation of any relationship is building a solid friendship, mutual respect, growth and understanding. And honesty. That initial chemistry and "erros" love is like a drug, but maturity is a stronger one; it's non-habit forming
. I'm not an ENFP, but speaking for myself, I have a strong tendency to hesitate if I sense myself in danger of "captured lightening bug syndrome" (we used to catch them in mason jars; what was wrong with letting them fly? Those great stars for whom your happiness shines--reordering a line from Zarathustra. To seize them misappropriates their gift, robs them of their purpose, and burns out their light. If you can not fly,
dance with them!)
I imagine the ENFP as being fiercely loyal. Like we are. It's a risk analysis. **Don't want what you don't want!!-J.R.** But, if you want him, you have to risk being vulnerable;
enjoy him. Talk to him!