greenfairy
philosopher wood nymph
- Joined
- May 25, 2012
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- MBTI Type
- iNfj
- Enneagram
- 6w5
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/sp
Not only do I feel the compulsion to tell everyone I know the most intimate details of my existence, I feel the compulsion to give people things. It must have been conditioned when I got into the pagan community. The group I was with was affiliated with a nonprofit organization (i.e. a woman in our group ran it and roped everyone she could find into helping her with it), and I learned I could be appreciated and helpful by donating things. So now when there is something I don't want I get this hopeful feeling that someone else could use it and I could be making them happy. I associate it with friends, partly because I would most often donate things to her; I'm always wanting to give my friends little things and share things I have with them. This is partly natural behavior, but I may be becoming like my ISFJ mother this way. I will not take it to her extreme though; I will not try to persuade someone to take something they don't want.
As I am moderate in everything most of the time, I've just become a generous person. I have been very helpful to some people who I've known a long time. I get confused when they are really appreciative though or say I don't have to give them things, so I know it's a little different from what is customary and I could moderate things a little more.
It does make waiting tables enjoyable.
I've never considered myself particularly selfless, generous, or someone who wants to make helping people the main focus of their life; but there is something about the randomness, convenience, and spontaneity of it, the very fact that I don't do it all the time and I don't have to, combined with physical objects which have a connection to me which makes it feel like I'm doing something good and am therefore making myself a better person. It's like by owning something which used to be mine, or which I have procured, they are sharing and loving a piece of me. And I really do like seeing people I care about do well and be happy.
As I am moderate in everything most of the time, I've just become a generous person. I have been very helpful to some people who I've known a long time. I get confused when they are really appreciative though or say I don't have to give them things, so I know it's a little different from what is customary and I could moderate things a little more.
It does make waiting tables enjoyable.
I've never considered myself particularly selfless, generous, or someone who wants to make helping people the main focus of their life; but there is something about the randomness, convenience, and spontaneity of it, the very fact that I don't do it all the time and I don't have to, combined with physical objects which have a connection to me which makes it feel like I'm doing something good and am therefore making myself a better person. It's like by owning something which used to be mine, or which I have procured, they are sharing and loving a piece of me. And I really do like seeing people I care about do well and be happy.
