INFtha14
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- Joined
- Dec 9, 2008
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- INFP
- Enneagram
- 6w7
- Instinctual Variant
- sp/sx
XD I'm just realizing the extend of my Fe-tardism. I still suck at expressing Fe, probably more then our INTP cousins XD. jkjk *hugs all the INTPs 
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I'm getting better, so much so I even surprise myself when I will almost
instinctfully just reach out *:O* woah...that was weird for once I didn't totally fail with my Fe.
Anywho
Update on Situation.
I had the interview and I think it went well.
All I can do is wait to find out what's happening.
First off my mother who has known about me putting my name out there for work for two months now. So I have given her ample notice to be aware that she will have to be ready to have my cute little neicey pieces into daycare.
Well If I get a call back from this place, she has to be ready to do that now. I have arrangements made so for the first two weeks of if I get offered a position that it takes for it to get set up for my neighbor to get her on or off the bus if needed till my mom has it officially set-up.
So long story short my mother trying to make this as difficult as possible for me and I won't give in. I'm trying to meet her half way.
My sweet neighbor was saying ' I'm not anti your mom or anything but if she doesn't start getting a move on she will be left high and dry. She's known about this long enough."
I said: Right I know, I'm not anti my mom either.
But she's so worried about me leaving her high and dry I can only do so much. If they offer me a job and I need to work I need to work .
So here's the deal, my amazing neighbor told me that she will be available for if I get the job for the first 2-4 weeks around the times of my neices bus times if needed. So whatever hours they expect of me she told me to just say yes I
can do it.
Because then my mother will have to get my
neice into daycare. No if ands or butts about it. My mother is really trying to fight to keep everything the same and I'm getting annoyed. I'm meeting her half way and she is still trying to screw me over.
I understand she's afraid cause my neighbor tells me that my mother said the other night
" I like the way things are now". Okay but don't you see...this is selfish to keep things the way they are. I'm trying to actually help you still while trying to get my own life started. And all you can think about is not bending to try to meet me half way?
Well I'll still meet her half way but this is it.
If I get an offer from this interview.
I will say yes to whenever they want me to come in cause if needed my very kind neighbor is willing to stick her neck out for me just so I can make it.
And then my mother will not be left in the cold then cause she'll have help while she's transitioning my neice into the program. So she'll have no choice but to get her enrolled and to stop making excuses.
When that times comes, I can monday-friday drop her off at the daycare in the morning and my mom can pick her up in the evening. Problem solved.
Staying in the past is doing no one any favors.
She's coming off controlling and I don't appreciate that. All my life this is how it's been, I try to meet her half she finds some reason why I can't finally get my own life started.
That above is my final offer. This morning she pulls out the card of " I may start looking elsewear for work cause the client that i'm really attached to may die". Now I can understand why someone would want to possibly change places after that I'm not mocking that.
The thing is I know what she's doing and she's thinking i'm going to put everything off for her just so she can say No I'm going to stay at this place nevermind".
Nope this is my final offer. If you want to transition do it when everything is settled, neice is in daycare, you find an offer, take the interview find out for sure if you got the job with the start out date and then give your two-three weeks notice. There you go....
Seriously mother I love you but I can't bend all the way for you if your going to try to manipulate any help I give you.
I love you but you make it very hard on me.
It's up to you know, your aware of what you need to do. You have a safty net as long as you make the move to set up the daycare.
I got for the first two-four weeks figured out so you won't lose your job.
Why can't you meet me half way? I told the neighbor that I wouldn't do this for an actually employer. Yeah the two-three weeks notice but I wouldn't allow them to keep me trapped in that position. It's not like i'm not giving her notice or time to do so, she just keep trying to corner me.
Lordy lordy.
*I'm getting better, so much so I even surprise myself when I will almost
instinctfully just reach out *:O* woah...that was weird for once I didn't totally fail with my Fe.
Anywho
Update on Situation.
I had the interview and I think it went well.
All I can do is wait to find out what's happening.
First off my mother who has known about me putting my name out there for work for two months now. So I have given her ample notice to be aware that she will have to be ready to have my cute little neicey pieces into daycare.
Well If I get a call back from this place, she has to be ready to do that now. I have arrangements made so for the first two weeks of if I get offered a position that it takes for it to get set up for my neighbor to get her on or off the bus if needed till my mom has it officially set-up.
So long story short my mother trying to make this as difficult as possible for me and I won't give in. I'm trying to meet her half way.
My sweet neighbor was saying ' I'm not anti your mom or anything but if she doesn't start getting a move on she will be left high and dry. She's known about this long enough."
I said: Right I know, I'm not anti my mom either.
But she's so worried about me leaving her high and dry I can only do so much. If they offer me a job and I need to work I need to work .
So here's the deal, my amazing neighbor told me that she will be available for if I get the job for the first 2-4 weeks around the times of my neices bus times if needed. So whatever hours they expect of me she told me to just say yes I
can do it.
Because then my mother will have to get my
neice into daycare. No if ands or butts about it. My mother is really trying to fight to keep everything the same and I'm getting annoyed. I'm meeting her half way and she is still trying to screw me over.
I understand she's afraid cause my neighbor tells me that my mother said the other night
" I like the way things are now". Okay but don't you see...this is selfish to keep things the way they are. I'm trying to actually help you still while trying to get my own life started. And all you can think about is not bending to try to meet me half way?
Well I'll still meet her half way but this is it.
If I get an offer from this interview.
I will say yes to whenever they want me to come in cause if needed my very kind neighbor is willing to stick her neck out for me just so I can make it.
And then my mother will not be left in the cold then cause she'll have help while she's transitioning my neice into the program. So she'll have no choice but to get her enrolled and to stop making excuses.
When that times comes, I can monday-friday drop her off at the daycare in the morning and my mom can pick her up in the evening. Problem solved.
Staying in the past is doing no one any favors.
She's coming off controlling and I don't appreciate that. All my life this is how it's been, I try to meet her half she finds some reason why I can't finally get my own life started.
That above is my final offer. This morning she pulls out the card of " I may start looking elsewear for work cause the client that i'm really attached to may die". Now I can understand why someone would want to possibly change places after that I'm not mocking that.
The thing is I know what she's doing and she's thinking i'm going to put everything off for her just so she can say No I'm going to stay at this place nevermind".
Nope this is my final offer. If you want to transition do it when everything is settled, neice is in daycare, you find an offer, take the interview find out for sure if you got the job with the start out date and then give your two-three weeks notice. There you go....
Seriously mother I love you but I can't bend all the way for you if your going to try to manipulate any help I give you.
I love you but you make it very hard on me.
It's up to you know, your aware of what you need to do. You have a safty net as long as you make the move to set up the daycare.
I got for the first two-four weeks figured out so you won't lose your job.
Why can't you meet me half way? I told the neighbor that I wouldn't do this for an actually employer. Yeah the two-three weeks notice but I wouldn't allow them to keep me trapped in that position. It's not like i'm not giving her notice or time to do so, she just keep trying to corner me.
Lordy lordy.
