facebook unfriend

[greenfairy]

The best friend of the unhealthy/crazy/manipulative ENFJ, who I thought was a decent person and mutual friend, unfriended me on facebook. Probably because of something she'd heard about me, as she's never said she had a problem with me. Bitch.

 

[JAVO]

My first guess is that unhealthy/crazy/manipulative ENFJ had something to do with this.

 

[greenfairy]

Yes. And there must be something off in someone who would be her best friend for so long. Oh well. You can't expect everyone to be reasonable. If that were the case the world might be a lot less interesting.

 

[JAVO]

Exactly. I'm always hearing about people doing irrational things like that, and I just don't understand. Sometimes, I've even heard of other T's doing the same. I'm human, and I started to go down that path a few times, but red flags went up in my mind and I quickly backpedaled in embarrassment before things went further than a few inaccurate statements.

 

[greenfairy]

Yeah I'm always embarrassed when I participate in drama. But like you say, we're human. I think the mature Fi doms and the really mature thinkers with well developed feeling sides are the best at avoiding it. And perhaps the IXTP's who are so detached they just don't care about anything social. So, a minority of the population.

 

[Dudesowin]

Would you rather someone keep the friend status and openly mock you with dissatisfaction in some half hearted undead friendship? What your post seems to claim is that everyone are merely puppets coerced by others to do their bidding. Couldn't she have unfriended you of her own volition? Who would want to be someones friend whom had such thoughts? Expecting isn't something tangible so I think you can expect everyone to be reasonable course the problem enters when you act on such and don't have a backup plan.

 

[greenfairy]

No, I'd just prefer her to not assume negative things about me without verifying them. She doesn't have any reason to unfriend me of her own volition. I haven't done anything to her. If she thinks something about me, or if she has a problem with something I do, she should send me a private message and just say so. And then I can explain myself.