Daughters Abandonment Issues

[Bethany]

Is there anyone that can help me, help my daughter with her abandonment issues from when her dad left us when she was three years old and he hasn't been in her life, until about fourteen years later my husband (which adopted and raised my daughter) and I found him and we have been allowing them to eat at a restaurant with us there as well but giving them privacy. In hpoes to give her some answers and help her in the ways that she needs help. I dont no if he is going to be a good thing or not, we are being protective right now because she is 17 but we realize she will be 18 in January. She has really struggled with self image ans so much more, she feels ugly and unwanted, guys dont ask her out or atleast the ones that she would like to ask her on a date, doesn't. Which inturn makes her feel all that junk from her biological dad. Take it from me she is very, very pretty. I told her she is so pretty and her body is in great shape. She is never good enough to her, no matter what. Can anyone relate? Can anyone help me understand all the signs of her childhood so she will no when she is dealing with those isues she will atleast no in her mind this is from my abandonment. She has never had a boyfriend which is okay with us but ofcourse it makes her feel bad, but she is very mature and will not settle. She is a christian and has a purity ring on her left finger and is a big influence with people when it comes to helping and loving others, being a good friend which she has yet to find which has also made her feel worse. Girls are jealous maybe and some guys are just plain scared to approach her. She carries herself with respect and acts that way. I know guys her age only want one thing, we talked to her about that. Well there is a little background. If you want to write something to her on my page then do so, or let me no what I can do to help.