proteanmix
Plumage and Moult
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When you're at the juncture, deciding if you want to be with someone for the rest of your life or at least for the foreseeable future it's really hard to strip away all those hopes and expectations for positive change. Sad hard truth is the person may never change. Exactly as you met them may be as they are forever. But that is both a good and bad thing.
Change is bidirectional. Implicit in change is movement and transformation. What directions does change move? Change is progression or regression. You can have negative progression or positive progression, positive regression or negative regression. What would examples of these be?
What I have noticed when I look at the people's around me intimate relationships is that people form long-term relationships on hopes and dreams of change. I am not immune to this myself. What I'm trying to figure out is where is the place for expectations? When you create standards of expectations of excellence or failure and inferiority those tend to be fulfilled. It seems easier to attain standards/expectations of failure than those of quality. Why is it easier to fail than to succeed?
Would it be better when you're entering into a meaningful long term relationship with someone to look at their positives and negatives and assume constancy?
Change is bidirectional. Implicit in change is movement and transformation. What directions does change move? Change is progression or regression. You can have negative progression or positive progression, positive regression or negative regression. What would examples of these be?
What I have noticed when I look at the people's around me intimate relationships is that people form long-term relationships on hopes and dreams of change. I am not immune to this myself. What I'm trying to figure out is where is the place for expectations? When you create standards of expectations of excellence or failure and inferiority those tend to be fulfilled. It seems easier to attain standards/expectations of failure than those of quality. Why is it easier to fail than to succeed?
Would it be better when you're entering into a meaningful long term relationship with someone to look at their positives and negatives and assume constancy?
