Amargith
Hotel California
- Joined
- Nov 5, 2008
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 4dw
- Instinctual Variant
- sx/so
As you may have noticed (or not), I've been on and off the last few months. Lots of things have changed. For the better, I have to say, and it's kept me preoccupied.
It was only when I came back that I realized how much I'd missed this place. Especially nowadays, since I'm alone a lot more. I'm still waiting for my INTJ to fix the problem with our firewall that's keeping me from Ventrillo but..it's already good to be back.
One of the newbs on Saturday unfortunately had to take the heat when I had a bit of energy to get rid of
I do hope he doesn't take it all too badly.
My INTJ recently told me to quit my job, focus on our move to Norway and keeping the household together while he's already there. Things are slowly falling into place... *mulls*
It's a bit weird...being that dependent of him, financially at least but to be honest..it's a relief, for now at least.
He's made it clear that he has no intention on holding this against me as he knows I won't just sit on my ass all day and do nothing. And he's right. Ever since I quit I've been able to go OCD on several projects that have been lying around for years now. And that's what initially distracted me from coming back. That, and of course the whole craziness that is Christmas. Still...it was worth it.
For the first year I felt like the party I do every year was the way I wanted it. I'd spent an entire week of clearing out our place, decluttering it, decorating it and putting together the menu. When our friends finally arrived, it all came together. Perfect. I finally have a party I want to do over again next year (years before were kinda like an experiment every time *grin*)
Aside from that there were of course the obligatory social parties with the parents...but somehow, this year, I enjoyed it. Masking as an INFJ around my family has severely diminished the conflicts and tension between my dad and I, and added significantly to the group dynamic. There's less resentment, and more group harmony. It's wonderful seeing my ISFJ mom surrounded by her flock and enjoying every moment of it.
Seeing as I'll move to another country soon...I wanna give her all the happy family moments I can give her. I know it'll be tough on her as she's for all intents and purposes my best friend. I'll miss her dearly.
Right now though, I get to focus on my own life again. I'm starting to feel the itch to have a social life again a bit...to socialize online mostly again. And I wanna learn so much. I have courses on all kinds of subjects lying about, and I cannot devour them fast enough.
Recently, I read 'Getting things done'. It was a book my INTJ originally ordered to see if it had any pointers he might find useful in restructuring his company. He gave it to me, when I showed interest. And, I've been using it to restructure my life. Yep, you heard right. I'm learning Te here people. And boy is it a frigging struggle. But it helped me plan my christmas party, and it's helping me manage the projects while following through on them. It still sucks...but I'm seeing the value in it. My INTJ cannot help but grin and smirk at me when he sees me at it though, so it's a good thing he's left for Norway again
I'm still working out the kinks, as I'm juggling four projects at once: building websites, moving to norway, a healthier lifestyle and maintaining my relationship. Hopefully, I'll be able to pull it off. We'll see though.
*stretches* Ahh..it's good to be home.
It was only when I came back that I realized how much I'd missed this place. Especially nowadays, since I'm alone a lot more. I'm still waiting for my INTJ to fix the problem with our firewall that's keeping me from Ventrillo but..it's already good to be back.
One of the newbs on Saturday unfortunately had to take the heat when I had a bit of energy to get rid of
I do hope he doesn't take it all too badly.My INTJ recently told me to quit my job, focus on our move to Norway and keeping the household together while he's already there. Things are slowly falling into place... *mulls*
It's a bit weird...being that dependent of him, financially at least but to be honest..it's a relief, for now at least.
He's made it clear that he has no intention on holding this against me as he knows I won't just sit on my ass all day and do nothing. And he's right. Ever since I quit I've been able to go OCD on several projects that have been lying around for years now. And that's what initially distracted me from coming back. That, and of course the whole craziness that is Christmas. Still...it was worth it.
For the first year I felt like the party I do every year was the way I wanted it. I'd spent an entire week of clearing out our place, decluttering it, decorating it and putting together the menu. When our friends finally arrived, it all came together. Perfect. I finally have a party I want to do over again next year (years before were kinda like an experiment every time *grin*)
Aside from that there were of course the obligatory social parties with the parents...but somehow, this year, I enjoyed it. Masking as an INFJ around my family has severely diminished the conflicts and tension between my dad and I, and added significantly to the group dynamic. There's less resentment, and more group harmony. It's wonderful seeing my ISFJ mom surrounded by her flock and enjoying every moment of it.
Seeing as I'll move to another country soon...I wanna give her all the happy family moments I can give her. I know it'll be tough on her as she's for all intents and purposes my best friend. I'll miss her dearly.
Right now though, I get to focus on my own life again. I'm starting to feel the itch to have a social life again a bit...to socialize online mostly again. And I wanna learn so much. I have courses on all kinds of subjects lying about, and I cannot devour them fast enough.
Recently, I read 'Getting things done'. It was a book my INTJ originally ordered to see if it had any pointers he might find useful in restructuring his company. He gave it to me, when I showed interest. And, I've been using it to restructure my life. Yep, you heard right. I'm learning Te here people. And boy is it a frigging struggle. But it helped me plan my christmas party, and it's helping me manage the projects while following through on them. It still sucks...but I'm seeing the value in it. My INTJ cannot help but grin and smirk at me when he sees me at it though, so it's a good thing he's left for Norway again
I'm still working out the kinks, as I'm juggling four projects at once: building websites, moving to norway, a healthier lifestyle and maintaining my relationship. Hopefully, I'll be able to pull it off. We'll see though.
*stretches* Ahh..it's good to be home.
