ESTJ + 1w2 tells you most everything you need to know about my experiences with anger.
My very closest friends can tell when the fuse is lit, but even Fe-doms who think they really know me don't see it coming when I finally explode. Of course, by "explode", I mean raise my voice or say something hurtful
but it feels so much bigger than it looks. And I think it freaks people out because it's so obvious that there's a lot of deep feeling behind it, when I do get mad. That plus the shock factor. I would use that to my advantage, but people would think I was a wackjob. So all it does is get in the way of pretty much everything.
Also, I feel like I would have an easier time accepting my anger if I were male, because people wouldn't label me "crazy" when it showed up. It would be associated with strength and masculinity, instead of PMS and mood swings.