LadyJaye
Scream down the boulevard
- Joined
- Nov 6, 2007
- Messages
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- MBTI Type
- ENFP
- Enneagram
- 7w6
- Instinctual Variant
- so/sx
As an INTJ, I have a modest supply of sugary-sweet energy and time for other people. I'm also very clear about to whom and where I use it. (Example: I'm sorry, can we do this another day? I need to focus on my project.") I'll give them a heads up if they investigate on my missing presence. I definitely would not involve myself in social interactions when I need to recharge in solitude... et al...
Sounds like your friend has some discipline issues. I think that is true of most people, regardless of type. So, if I were you, I would have limited my interactions with him just based off the fact that I couldn't really rely on him to say what he means. Again, I can only give my own perspective, but I say what I mean. And if I'm overextended, or feel I can't make a commitment to something, I say so.
Pah! I say, pah!
The rights and obligations of freedom from constraint are something I know a little about. You want freedom from constraint? Live the life of an INTJ.
Dipping in and out of people's lives is letting them down unless they're independent enough to take it. Don't ya think so?
I don't "dip in and out" of people's lives. But I do take breaks. Breaks that these people are informed of. It's a bit melodramatic to make everyone sound like they're victims of our personality.
Extraverted NFs seem to do this kind of thing a lot. How can someone be the most interesting person in the room at one moment and yet there's no interest in pursuing that further? It seems so fickle. I guess it's hard for me to understand, because I am more reserved in crowds and only really open up in small groups or one-on-one. If I find someone interesting in a group, my first reaction is to want to get to know them more intimately to gauge whether it's a potential friendship. I have an ENFP friend who is all smiles and engagement when I see her, but extremely difficult to get in touch with to plan getting together. If we ever do see one another, it's on her schedule, as if she woke up one day and randomly thought, "Oh, hey, I haven't seen so-and-so in a while!" It's tough to know whether to take it personally.
Introverts are just as flaky and fickle as introverts. They just aren't noticed as quickly because they hide in corners in the first place.
There. I think that was equal to the blanket statement you said.