Haven't read anyone elses responses, but I find this question asinine. I really wouldn't care whether I had a T child or an F child, and if forced to choose, well, I haven't a clue, and truly don't have a preference. I find great, admirable qualities in both.
Eh... I think it's more that the thread enforces the F/T stereotypes themselves, as if all T children are going to embody this amazing grasp of logic and all F children are going to be caring and kind. Put differently, I think when people envision F, some might envision overly dramatic/emotional, and some might envision overly accommodating. And when people envision T, some might envision calculating and cold, others might envision unemotional robots,others super-logicians, etc. It's simply not the case. I've met ridiculously silly T's with emotional outbursts, and extremely logical F's.
So that's why I really don't have a preference. The actual way the T/F plays out is highly dependent on the E/I, N/S and J/P as well, there's so much individual variance and other psychological factors outside of mbti, and it's just not a rigid system to begin with.
Another way to look at it, though, the whole 9 months and the years after to find out their orientation, I'd be praying for an introvert. I'd want a feeler if they were introverted. I could deal with an extraverted feeler, but I'd prefer an introvert. I could easily deal with an ExTx.
Everyone has plus points and everyone has negative points, much as some would deny it.
Interesting. Your decision is primarily based off of what would be more pleasurable for you as a parent and not what would be the most beneficial for the child?
Not that it would ruin anything... As he/she said: (Although I don't think anyone denies it.)
I'm not trying to pick on you, Raz, or be disagreeable. I think your answer is perfect. This is a hypothetical question, after all. I could have quoted anybody. It just makes me wonder how many decisions parents make for their children because of what they, the parents, want.
On the one hand, it's not that bad, and it's quite common. The parent has to stay sane to be a good parent! Obviously they can't deny themselves. But there's nothing worse than making a kid play football if he likes art more, or making them become a doctor if they want to be a musician. A lot of daily decisions parents make are completely selfish in nature, and those little things have to add up in a big way. I had one parent, that while very giving and loving, made selfish decisions regarding me a lot without even realizing it, while the other rarely ever did that.
The most interesting statistic that this poll has produced so far is that a whopping 80% of those polled voted for their kid to be what they are. That's pretty significant. It might be even higher, too, if the people who refused to vote had actually made a decision. We really like our own perspectives, don't we?
I would rather be able to think through my feelings, then feel through an organic chemistry exam.
I would rather be able to think through my feelings, then feel through an organic chemistry exam.
Eh... I think it's more that the thread enforces the F/T stereotypes themselves, as if all T children are going to embody this amazing grasp of logic and all F children are going to be caring and kind [...]
I've felt my way through orgo exams. I just "felt" that I had the mechanisms right and my intermediates were correct. It worked pretty well.
I've felt my way through orgo exams. I just "felt" that I had the mechanisms right and my intermediates were correct. It worked pretty well.
I totally would pick a thinker. My first son is an ENFP. He drives me insane. My god the kid is so damned emo.
The second kid is a little thinker of some sort and we mesh much better.
The other day it occured to me that we gets a lot of discretion in who we pick for our mate and spend lots of time finding a compatible partner.
With kids we are pretty much screwed as we get stuck with whatever pops out. It doesn't matter how much you don't like that person or their personality, you are stuck for the next 18 years at least dealing with them. Considering the avarage marriage lasts 5 years, that's a lot of commitment to a person you haven't met and can't predict.
(13 year old enfp for sale. works hard. sort of. well not really. messy, emo, and moody like a PMSing woman)