Interesting. What other things did you find to be wrong with the ISTP-ENFJ pairing? What was it that drew you to each other in the first place and led to marriage?
She is a planner. While i like that since i am a P type. It was to much control for me. it was lets fill all this fun into such a tight time frame we are all stessEd out.
She would get mad at me on my behalf because i didnt care about something . Which was annoying as hell
She hated who i was because everyone loved me and stood up for me against her bitchyness
She is anal and i am go with the flow
Nothing i did was right because i am not anal which lead to me being lazy
She has some screwed up perception of me that somehow matches the typical guy, yet i am far from typical.
Always ended up in i am damned if i do and damned if i dont do to my weakness in planning and my lack of anal
she truly thought i would come crawling back because i am incompetent and cant do anything for myself. I didnt do it because i was tired of getting bitched at for what i did do
Our parenting styles differ. I make my words gold, she yells with alot of empty threats
I felt empty inside, she knew "people" so she didnt know what i wanted. When i told her it was stupid or wrong And then said i never bring anything up because when i did it was dismissed.
Basically she couldnt see reality for what it was, just some vision in her head and her controlling take over nature was driven by that.
she is an awesome "people" person, but on a one-on-one scale she sucked because she controlled by trying to put the person with the typical
She still to this day tells me what i should have done to fix my issues that i dont have issues with, but typical guy would.
Called me every name in book and truly believes i fit them, yet no one else thinks so.
the good.
I am a busy body and helpec alot, she always had plans
Both have huge hearts and do anything for anyone
Firts girlfriend
always late to everything because of sex.
Always out and about
Always moving forward to reach goals
Lots of fun at first before she got all stressed and bitchy
We got engaged in college, i was stil seeing if she provided what i needed. I ws stupid and said yes when she asked me to marry her during sex. Then by next day everyone knew we were engaged and i was like...shit. wasnt bad enough to call it off. So i just continued to try and pull what was missung out of her. Never found it and then she got srresed and between missing stuff which left me empty and all hell breaking loose it just spiraled down hill.
She needs typical guy and someone who is less independent. no one really understands me so they cant really help her with me and being a people person thats what she relies on.