NK258
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I was thinking about how in my experience, I find men less forgiving. But then I thought this might be due to the "types" of men I'm generally attracted to. Of course, if the guy doesn't acknowledge he's angry, represses it or denies it, he can't really forgive me. And if they do, they generally resent me, or hate me. I'm probably on a few "black lists" and I might have a voodoo doll or two with my name on it.
So I'm curious, what types are less apt to forgive ?
What types forgive more readily ?
Or is this an issue not related to type necessarily ?
Now know that it's not like I wake up in the morning and say, "hmmm. I think I'm gonna be a jerk face today. That sounds like fun!" .. no. I don't do that. And quite frankly, I have a really hard time believing ANYONE wakes up thinking it'll be fun to be an asshole. I think we all are who we are regardless of health and/or awareness level and it's nothing personal at the end of the day.
But, for the sake of curiosity, let's say someone does something and they aren't aware and you're hurt but realize they are now aware ... I personally like to forgive people. It makes me feel closer to them to see them grow. And like wise if they were to forgive me for my "human-ness" ...
But I realize not all types think the same ...
So do you think this would be more MBTI in factoring a person's capacity to forgive and not clench to resentment ? Or enneagram ? And if so .. which types are more or less apt to forgive ?
I'm not talking about the pretend forgiving where passive aggressive dynamic ensues. I'm talking about REAL forgiveness from the heart or what have you ...
So I'm curious, what types are less apt to forgive ?
What types forgive more readily ?
Or is this an issue not related to type necessarily ?
Now know that it's not like I wake up in the morning and say, "hmmm. I think I'm gonna be a jerk face today. That sounds like fun!" .. no. I don't do that. And quite frankly, I have a really hard time believing ANYONE wakes up thinking it'll be fun to be an asshole. I think we all are who we are regardless of health and/or awareness level and it's nothing personal at the end of the day.
But, for the sake of curiosity, let's say someone does something and they aren't aware and you're hurt but realize they are now aware ... I personally like to forgive people. It makes me feel closer to them to see them grow. And like wise if they were to forgive me for my "human-ness" ...
But I realize not all types think the same ...
So do you think this would be more MBTI in factoring a person's capacity to forgive and not clench to resentment ? Or enneagram ? And if so .. which types are more or less apt to forgive ?
I'm not talking about the pretend forgiving where passive aggressive dynamic ensues. I'm talking about REAL forgiveness from the heart or what have you ...