Heart&Brain
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- Mar 29, 2009
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- ENFP
I haven't been dating a lot and never while knowing their type.
But from other experiences, I'll say that ESFJs can seem VERY bossy and shallow to me. When I'm around, it's like they can't make any comments at all without it being a narrowminded, competitive value-judgment and without fishing for constant ego-stroking. Apparently they feel intimidated, inferior, insulted and aggressive if I dare to make any display of Ne. (Eek - and then they patronise my inferior Si-aspirations... :steam
And since they are E like me, we tend to constantly fight for the microphone which will make the conflict evident and hurtful. ISFJs don't get on my nerves like that at all.
Likewise with ESTJs that I'll rather quickly clash with if they go bossy, belittling and insensitive.
But replace E with an I: Me and ISTJs seem to have a soft spot for eachother, though it's not ever been in a romantic sense, more "fatherly". Though ISTJs have pissed me off with rude, closed insensitivity, often they also seem to lighten up and dare let a bit loose with me around, enjoying my Ne-antics and themselves sharing some glimpses of introverted Feeling. And I like that they challenge my Te to present my thoughts consistent and conclusive. It's also nice to see the sternness soften up as they relax, smirk and ponder my ideas.
But from other experiences, I'll say that ESFJs can seem VERY bossy and shallow to me. When I'm around, it's like they can't make any comments at all without it being a narrowminded, competitive value-judgment and without fishing for constant ego-stroking. Apparently they feel intimidated, inferior, insulted and aggressive if I dare to make any display of Ne. (Eek - and then they patronise my inferior Si-aspirations... :steam
And since they are E like me, we tend to constantly fight for the microphone which will make the conflict evident and hurtful. ISFJs don't get on my nerves like that at all.
Likewise with ESTJs that I'll rather quickly clash with if they go bossy, belittling and insensitive.
But replace E with an I: Me and ISTJs seem to have a soft spot for eachother, though it's not ever been in a romantic sense, more "fatherly". Though ISTJs have pissed me off with rude, closed insensitivity, often they also seem to lighten up and dare let a bit loose with me around, enjoying my Ne-antics and themselves sharing some glimpses of introverted Feeling. And I like that they challenge my Te to present my thoughts consistent and conclusive. It's also nice to see the sternness soften up as they relax, smirk and ponder my ideas.