KLessard
Aspiring Troens Ridder
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I just read Jung's description of Fe and remembered this quote from David Keirsey about the Idealist Child (Fi NFs will probably also relate):
"NF children seem to have a natural talent for relating intimately with others or for what I have called "diplomatic empathy." These children, even very young ones, like to play at being Teachers and Counsellors, Champions and Healers, and such interest in the diplomatic role variants may be inborn, since it shows up so early in the lives of NF children, and will lead to endless practice if encouraged by their parents. Unfortunately, there is in most cases very little modeling of such behaviour for them to copy. Few parents, or relatives –or even teachers, for that matter –are very skilled in diplomacy, so Idealist children must usually learn on their own rather than by taking after a good role model." –David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II
This passage spoke to me so when I first read it, because I remembered being so exasperated about my ESTJ mother's poor sense of diplomacy and how she kept making sad blunders in her conversations and relationships in general. Even making our whole family ashamed sometimes.
I so needed a decent role model to teach me diplomacy, but in a strange way, I seemed to have it in me, because I saw the problem when diplomacy was lacking.
I feel that my attempts to find diplomatic models have formed my Fe, and that the Fe "standards" might be different from one person to another. What have you modeled your Fe after, or where have you found your models if they were lacking with relatives/parents, etc. ?
I see a correlation with Fe but I might be wrong. For Fi Idealists, feel free to expose your perspective.
"NF children seem to have a natural talent for relating intimately with others or for what I have called "diplomatic empathy." These children, even very young ones, like to play at being Teachers and Counsellors, Champions and Healers, and such interest in the diplomatic role variants may be inborn, since it shows up so early in the lives of NF children, and will lead to endless practice if encouraged by their parents. Unfortunately, there is in most cases very little modeling of such behaviour for them to copy. Few parents, or relatives –or even teachers, for that matter –are very skilled in diplomacy, so Idealist children must usually learn on their own rather than by taking after a good role model." –David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II
This passage spoke to me so when I first read it, because I remembered being so exasperated about my ESTJ mother's poor sense of diplomacy and how she kept making sad blunders in her conversations and relationships in general. Even making our whole family ashamed sometimes.
I so needed a decent role model to teach me diplomacy, but in a strange way, I seemed to have it in me, because I saw the problem when diplomacy was lacking.
I feel that my attempts to find diplomatic models have formed my Fe, and that the Fe "standards" might be different from one person to another. What have you modeled your Fe after, or where have you found your models if they were lacking with relatives/parents, etc. ?
I see a correlation with Fe but I might be wrong. For Fi Idealists, feel free to expose your perspective.
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